Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Chilton, Wisconsin
As far as the pushing goes, Ruby NEVER did this...untill I tought her to "kiss". Then she was ALWAYS pushing her nose on people...(looking for a treat). Well, I started patting her (not quite a slap, but a firm push on her nose - pushing her away) with a firm distinkt vocal command. Ie, away, back, ect... I used "rape". Not only are there 2 'hard' constinents in the word, along with a strong vowel, making the command quite easy to sound firm...but bystanders also found humor in it. She saw me as being firm and disliking her actions (unwanted nose pushing) not to mention unkowing bystanders chuckling ( I belive that a a horse can feel humiliation, amongst other simple feelings). With all of these factors, within a few days, Ruby would still kiss on command, but would never push herself on you("rape" you)!
My suggestion... In the corse of you being by your horse, when she pushes you - push back. Be firm, but NOT mean. Let her know that you are the boss. It's your space, and you're going to keep it...until you invite her in(save that for a bit later). If she pushes you - push back. Like I said, push her away and say in a very firm voice "back", "away" or "no" or whatever you choose (be consistant though -pick one and go with it). Use a firm voice. Don't be afraid to use a firm, gruff voice (don't holler or scare her), but be firm. Angle your eybrows inwards towards your nose and wrinkle your forhead, stick your chest out and tence up while you say that. <pause while you silently try that...........> (feels goofy, but it works!) Moments later - when she goes away- resume being nice to her like you normally would (after 3 seconds, a horse forgets what was going on....don't dwell on the situation). If she's being good, tell her she's a "pretty pony" or "a good girl", or whatever you may normally say to her. This tells her 'he this is my space. I love you and all, but dag gone it, you will respect me."