Pat1960, I was exactly were you are at the beginning of this year. I bought my first horse last November. All was well at first, but by January, my horse started bucking. I was getting really hurt. She started becoming more and more pushy and it was getting worse and worse. I started watching all the training videos I could on training/bucking and tried to work with her myself. It didn't seem to make even a minor improvement. I was terrified of riding her and people told me that I should sell her. Now, almost a year later...My mare is awesome and I have fallen in love with her all over again.
I won't give you the whole story of all the things I tried that failed or trainers I went through. What worked for me was this...I found a trainer that was willing to come to me and get on the horse, then train me on what to do. I talked to and worked with several trainers that wouldn't get on my horse. This was difficult, because I was too scared to. I found a wonderful trainer that would spend half the lesson working on my horse and the other half teaching me how to train her. I found that even though I thought I was doing something the right way from a training video, because I was missing a tiny detail (a correction I needed to make that I missed, the way I held the rope, etc...) the excersize was futile or even making it worse. This trainer had no problem getting on my horse either. When the time came for me to get on my mare (for me it was lesson 4), I had the courage to do so, because my trainer had gotten on and ridden without a problem. After a couple of months, I was riding my horse with no problems. If I notice she is starting to test me, I just go through all the stuff my trainer tought me and my mare is back to being a submissive love bug.
#1 advice - Get a trainer that is not afraid to get on your horse (maybe not in the first training session if she needs to start training at square one). If she is not confident in her training skills, why would you be?
#2 advice - Get a trainer that will take the time to train you. When he or she is gone and your horse starts testing you...what would you do? You will need to know how to stop it immediately or do some groundwork refresher excersizes.
This is just my experience. I am grateful that it worked wonders!
Last edited by erino49; 11-21-2011 at 04:24 PM.