I have never ridden him. For some odd reason the horse's real owners say he's "too old" well, he's only 23. I've known this horse for over a year now and every once in a while I'll rub his neck and he'll actually close his eyes and get very relaxed and occasionally will take his nose and gently place it on my chest and take long deep breaths. Now he doesn't want to be touched. Period. Maybe for a minute or so, but then he'll try to nip at me. He has NEVER pinned his ears at me until now. And he's starting to become a little hard to halter. But I know how and am fixing that. I mean, he really is a sweet horse (or was). I'd never seen any aggression in him. EVER. But like I said, until now.
This is all ground manners and stuff, like I said for some odd reason Im not allowed to ride them and they probably haven't been ridden in over 10 years. They're lazy, and spoiled. But, they're not spoiled by me. That's their owners doing.
I've got to figure this stuff out, I plan to be a horse trainer someday...have a lot to learn :)
When dealing with cases like that, sometimes it's best to walk away from the situation. I have never been able to afford my own horse so I've only ever worked with neighbor's or friend's horses, wherever I can find them. Sometimes, the owners are so mentally delusional about their horses that I just have to throw my hands up and say I can't deal with it. There was a horse I really would like to have worked with, she was a 10 year old Andalusian/Arabian, very
beautiful and very
untrained. Her ground manners were a complete disaster, almost to the point of being dangerous because her owners had let her run them over and charge at them, and rip their clothes up in search of treats. Normally I would have jumped all over the opportunity to train the horse, but it was impossible because her owners didn't see her as a horse at all, they saw her as a big dog that they wanted to treat as a human baby... so in essence they saw her as a human baby. Any kind of discipline was turning their baby back into a horse and it just destroyed them every time, so I couldn't do anything with her. Had to walk away.
I would recommend if you like working with horses to find a horse that someone either doesn't care what you do with the horse, or knows a lot about horses and is willing to help you. I can sometimes turn horse owners around by making myself look as much horse trainer-ish as possible, I talk to them about horse psychology and different training methods that deal with each kind of behavior, and I come across almost professional and it lets the owners know that I really am experienced and there's nothing they can tell me about their horse that I won't know in the first five minutes of working with the horse by myself. They will listen to me a lot easier that way. But if you're young, and inexperienced and looking to ride horses for fun, you're going to have a harder time convincing the owners that how they view their horses is wrong. So for now, just don't even deal with people who are difficult, find someone who isn't going to be quite so delusional about their horse.