Pavani---I think that the biggest thing is, is you have to one have patience, but the next thing aside from that is, I am a big advocate of putting horses in their place. If he's bad, he gets a smack, whether it be with the crop, or if he tries to nip at my hand, and a smack in the mouth. Now don't get me wrong I IN NO WAY abuse him, but he needs to have consequences for his actions.
When people tell me, oh I would never smack my horse or do anything to hurt them. I would never put Ransom in harms way, or in any way discipline him more then he needs. However what people also have to realize is that he's an 1100 pound animal, that is all muscle and if he wanted (like when he doesnt want to do something) he could really hurt me.
I'll give you some background, he used to buck HORRIBLY, with every bone in his body, he would actually grunt when he did it. NO WAY I was staying on those (thank god it was on a lunge line). We were out on a trail ride, and he shook because of flies, and he didnt like the way it felt with me on his back (this was when he was still green) and he went into bronco mode, I mean arched back, hopping bucking lunatic. Needless to say he threw me over his head, and onto a gravel road. I landed on my elbow, and my hip. Thank god I didnt break anything, but at that point he did it with such a malicious approach, like he was saying "get off NOW" I didnt want to get back on. I knew at that point we were in trouble. I have fallen off more times then I can count over the years, from one as big as a 17.1 TB, but I never felt like I didnt want to get back on. We had taken him on the same trail ride a few months before and he was only a 2YO and he rode for 4 days straight, was an angel. So he developed this attitude when he turned 3.
I then sent Ransom to a trainer, well the trainer was actualy at the trail riding camp we were at, he was working there over the summer, and he had his own training business back at his home in VA. He turned out to be my saving grace. He gave me my horse back, Ransom would not still be my horse if it wasnt for him. He took Ransom on, and Ransom even got him off a few times. Ransom had to be flipped, when he bucked to get the idea. Not just once, but 3 times before he thought about bucking again.
I guess I am going off on a tangent, but I just wanted to let you know that if Ransom and I are still together, then anything is possible. And everytime that I think he is going back to that place, I make SURE to tell him who's boss. So that he doesnt forget it.
Sounds like Sunny is a great guy, and like other members have said it gets better with the warmer weather. Im glad to hear that my horse is not the only one who has given me a run for my money. Sounds like between you and your trainer everything will work out. :)