Yeah honey, you made a VERY poor decision in choosing this horse. Don't beat yourself up about it. It happens all the time. You seem to be aware of it, so that is better than most.
Some words of advice, the things people are about to say you may not like to hear, but the ONLY way you are going to help this horse is to listen. Do not get upset if people seem rude, or when they tell you you can't do this. Listen and understand.
I have a few questions:
Do you have any adults that can help you? Do you take lessons? Do you have any experience with horses? Are you around anyone who does?
Why on earth did you choose this horse?! Why did your parents let you? Lol! At least she is just running away and not trying to eat you.
If you do it right, and get help, you very well could make a great horse out of this one. You can't do it alone, though.
You NEED a trainer, Girly. This horse needs to be given at least a month at a good trainer so that she can get a better education. You can't blame her for not knowing.
Horses are not like puppies. Generally speaking our relationships with dogs always starts with us being the teachers. Even kids can take a puppy and create a great, well trained dog. HORSES are the exact opposite. Our relationships here *should* always start with a horse that know WAY more than us. And they can only know that when they are taught by someone who knows WAY more than them.
Being blunt, not mean, you don't know more than this horse. YOU need to be trained. SHE needs to be trained. By a trainer.
For encouragement, I started "playing" with foals when I was 12, so you are at a fairly capable age to start learning. I most certainly didn't do it on my own. My parents, who are professional trainers, were always outside supervising and telling me what to do. "Do this. Do that. Don't do that. That was dumb. Instead of that, try this..." And so on. You really need to be shown what to do.
In the meantime:
When you are out there, when she comes up to you to smell you, right before she almost touches you walk away. See what happens. Don't be abrupt and stalk off. Just lower your hand and walk away a little bit. Don't leave, just go away to inspect a stick or plant 15ft away. Then go try again.
How I work with my foals is really similar. They are always loose and it it my challenge to get them to let me hand them before they are weaned. It is AGONIZING when you get to that point where they will let you be close enough to lick them and they still won't let you touch them. It takes TIME. If I get in a hurry, or get frustrated, it sets me back. I have to be calm and patient, and it is HARD for a person like me!
Don't be too dependent on treats. Treats are there for rewards, not bribes. They have created many many monsters.
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Last edited by LadyDreamer; 10-01-2012 at 09:32 AM.