Also, yesterday I did go to just walk and groom her, this is the first time I did this alone. I noticed Leagum spent the first 15 minutes or so looking for Jo (my trainer) and paying attention to everything but me...she was very nervous that it was just me there. She eventually calmed down as I just kept making her listen to me and focus on me, but I want to work with her often so she immediately looks at me for direction, not the staff at the ranch.
Does this all make sense?
Thank you so much for your advice!
I see that you have received a lot of great answers so far. What I focussed on was your awareness that the mare was paying attention to everything BUT you. But, you kept making her focus on you. That's the way to do it; be aware of when your horse's attention is elsewhere and get it back before you try to do training.
Sounds simple, but no always so. Sometimes the horse is focussed really hard on external things, and in order fro you to get it to be focussed on you, you have to interrupt it's external focus and give it something more interesting to focus on. This means that you pay attention to your horse, and where they are thinking. practice watching your horse's mind , as evidenced by their ears, eyes, and then their feet moving, and see if you can tell when they leave you mentally, and if you can catch them quick and interupt that, and see if they'll come back to you mentally.
Get her attention. That is task # one.