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post #1 of 7 Old 06-10-2009, 10:29 PM Thread Starter
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New Pony Not fond of People?

I have just bought a 14yr old arab mare. She is pretty as a picture, has good manners ie stands still to be covered, groomed etc but you can just see that she doesnt like being around people. When I am grooming on one side she will turn her head around to the other so she doesnt have to look at me almost. Its very strange. I don't think she was cared for very well at her old home which would be a reason but she isnt head shy or anything just doesnt seem to want to be in human company. Does anyone know any things I can do to help her through this?
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post #2 of 7 Old 06-10-2009, 10:37 PM
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That is really weird. All my horses are all about human interaction, lol. They say that grooming is a great way to develop a relationship with a horse, so I would start there. Do a lot of grooming, find a good itchy spot. My mare likes to be scratched on her withers and, believe it or not, her udders. Actually, both my girls like their udders rubbed. o_O You can also just try to be her friend. Find a treat she really likes and give her as much as is safe. Other than that... I really don't know. It's very interesting...

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post #3 of 7 Old 06-10-2009, 10:54 PM
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Like rO said. Find her sweet spots and just bond with her, take her out and hand graze her if possible. I think the more interesting and enjoyable you can make your self the more she is going to like being around you. ie find something she is good at or does alot... scratching her chest etc. Teach her a simple trick for fun something undemanding. I found horses like learning and it is a great ice breaker so to speak.
I had a horse who was treated like just a horse, he didn't want anything to do with people. Good manners like you said but just uninterseted. It really helped us to find something that was just for the two of us like silly tricks or special scratch spots.
Don't fret she will warm up to you with time. Good luck!
oh and any pics???
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post #4 of 7 Old 06-10-2009, 11:26 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the help guys, My plan is to just be calm and patient with her. Maybe jsut sit out in the paddock with a few treats and encourage her to come to me instead of just racing up and catching her. I think she will be fine when she realises I am not going to hurt her. Sorry though for some reason I can't upload pics, i could email them if you like:)
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post #5 of 7 Old 06-11-2009, 12:51 AM
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Patience is the key. As everyone has said look for some sweet spots that she likes .
One word of warning though , if you think she was not well cared for or mistreated in a previous home keep a sharp eye out for the opposite. You could take weeks to make an improvement in her behavior towards you only to see it dissapear because you do something that reminds her of a previous owner.

Also some mares don't take to having their udders rubbed - I've known a few that you would loose some teeth if you tried to rub them, normal placid mares that gave no indication at all, and behaved perfectlly in all other regards.
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post #6 of 7 Old 06-11-2009, 01:05 AM
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dose she like carrots? if she dos, just brake them up and just give them to her just take it slow get her to trust her then you mabey you can rub her face just try to start a bond between you before you start your traning.

i also agree with Nutty Saddler.
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post #7 of 7 Old 06-22-2009, 11:19 AM
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One thing I would try is join-up. Monty Roberts does it, but so does Buck Brannaman (personally, I like his way better). If she doesn't like humans, become a horse. It's not even necessarily being the leader, my pony and I are "equals." I don't give in to her and she doesn't give in to me, we compromise. she used to hate human contact, but now she nuzzles me and rubs against me and loves grooming because I'm the "same as her."
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