I would go bitless if she listened. Ill only ride that way in the arena.
The bold part is where you are wrong. The bit is not what makes a horse listen. The arena is where you and this horse belong. Did you take 15 minutes out of your life and watch that video? Watch it! That is what your horse needs. Notice how little contact he has with the horse's face? You can do this with a snaffle.
also the not picking up the lead thing is resent and driving me nuts lol. Sense I put back shoes on her she wont pick it up.
It is not the shoes causing the not picking up the lead, its the riding.
Im willing to do the work, I have tried the seat thing and no reins thing and got no where. Ill try everything you guys have said and see what works.
It is not a system of try it 10 minutes. Oh that didn't work and then stopping. You need a program of NO TRAILS. Stay in that arena and get it there. And keep at it. You will go further with this horse doing a 20minute intense arena ride at the walk and putting her away than you will doing everything for 5 minutes in the arena and then taking her out on a trail ride.
If you want to trail ride, do it on a different horse that is broke.
If you want this horse on a trail ride take 6 months and work in the arena only and get the skills you need to go out on the trails with her.
Also she dose not toss her head lunging. She is well behaved when lunging and doing ground work, she thinks is a game lol.
Of course not. And do you know why? The reason for her head tossing and resistance is standing on the ground, not sitting on her back throwing her off stride or hitting her mouth!!
She is not aloud to get way with anything but she enjoys it (was working with my friends horse lunging. She was grazing and as soon as I put the other horse away she ran into the arena and called at me, all excited lol).
Less likely that she wants to work as she does not want to be left alone. Horses are herd animals and if there is no other horse there, you are her "herd." Being with you is better than being alone. If another horse was there being with the other horse would likely be better than being with you.
As for the lessons that's not possible. Don't have the money and the last person I got lessons from had me bracing lol.
I am sorry you do not have the money. This is how so many very nice horses get ruined. People buy a horse thinking it will be like Flicka or Mr. Ed or the Black Stallion... and they can learn as the go like Alec Ramsey. That is fiction.
The reality is you may learn on your own but that way may get you hurt and it will most assuredly ruin what looks to be a very very nice little horse. Eventually you may learn.. but how many horses will your ruin in the process? Don't you want your horse to do well?
You really need a good coach.. which is what a good teacher is. And a good horse well broke to learn on.
Well.. I have given all the suggestions I have. All the ones that work.