All of your photos show you 'playing' with her and treating her like a big 'lap dog' and 'pet'. She looks at you as her equal -- not her leader.
If you want respect, you have to keep her on a different level from you. You have to to be her leader and she has to be a respectful member of YOUR herd.
As long as you interact with her on her level, there will be huge lapses in her respect for you. She will only have respect when SHE feels like it.
If you pend your time riding her and teaching her good riding moves and responses and let her be a horse with other horses, she will stop treating you like an equal.
Well, thank you for your advice. I thought about it a lot, and I think you make a good point... I just do not know how to interact with her on a level without these "games". I just feel it is something differetn for her, I still insist on her doing what I tell her to, whatever funny trick I teach her, I always insist on her doing it, as soon as she knows what she is supposed to do... I don't want to repeat 5 excercises while doing ground work. Maybe if you all can adivse me a little bit more excercises to do with her while doing ground work?
And, I also ride her, riding is a lot bigger part of our connections, I ususally ride her, only because now it is dark outside very soon and I sometimes get to her quite late, there is no time for riding, which usually take s minimally 90 minutes-cleaning, tacking, riding, cleaning,... And I also have other responsibilities while I am by her-cleaning her paddock of the poo, giving her food, water etc...
But the ratio riding:ground work is about 3:1. And I also count lounging for ground work (when I do not have so much time, but I know she had too much oats to stand in her paddock. She is a pony, so she easily gets laminitis -never had one before, but only with my care she gets oats. Without any she is quite lazy under saddle. She gets about a handful or two, not so much-not even half a liter. To mix the vitamins and get a little energy while being ridden.)
And we switch riding on trails and trainings regularly, she is very pleasant to ride, she gpes nicely, but not too fast, reacts nicely, learns quite quickly. But when we go three times in a row to the arena, she is pissed, works anyway, but without any life... and fourth time, she starts to "complain"... goes slowly, and is not as willing as she usually is.so we ride mostly trail-arena-trail-arena,.... and we have like two or three trainings only by ourselves, and then one with a trainer. She make sit more interesting to her, but still, if we havent been on a trail too long, she is not willing to learn.
But thanks to your idea, that I am too friendly to be a boss... Maybe I really should be more hard on her.