I've had my 2yr old for a few months now and she is a complete baby, you can do anything to her and she doesn't care. The only problem is she doesn't respect me and my space. She will push, shove, walk over me, whatever it takes to get her way. She also does the same thing to my yearling that she stays with. What can I do to make her respect me more? As sweet as she is, she can be dangerous when she wants because she doesn't think twice about running me over!
She is a BIG girl and I'm only 110 lbs so she easily gets her way. Her previous owners did Parelli with her so I don't know if that's part of it or not, all I know is I need help!!
Keep it simple.
Horse understands pressure and release of pressure.
When horse does "X" if that results in a release of pressure, horse will do "X"
When horse does "X" and that results in pressure, horse stops doing"X"
Horses don't want to feel pressure.
One horse pins his ears at another. That's pressure. If that other horse doesn't move, then the first horse will raise the pressure to a kick or a bite and if that second horse still doesn't move, that first horse will get more adament about it until the second horse moves. Soon as the second horse moves, the first horse gives that horse a release of pressure.
Second horse then learns the pattern and chooses to move before the pressure is raised.
So, if your horse steps in toward you and you step back, you are training her to move into you to get a release of pressure.
Do this enough times and the horse learns that if she moves faster or more assertively into you, you will eventually move and therefore give her a release of pressure.
You've trained your horse to step in toward you. To dominate you, basically.
Nevermind what the horse was trained in before. You're training her now to be dominant and you want to change that, right?
Change the rules then.
Every single time she steps in toward you, even one step, immediately "kiss" (light pressure) and tap the air between you and her with a whip or whatever you like to use (more pressure) with rhythm...that means, don't just wave it all over the place. Look at her chest (pick a real spot on her body) and tell her chest to back up five steps. Soon as it does, leave her alone. Don't chase her with the whip, simply tell her to back up and when she does, put the release of pressure there.
Horses learn like people do. Through condition response. That is, repetition of the same thing. So, if she repeatedly gets pressure...you use a PATTERN and RHYTHM of pressure (no single whack).....when she steps in toward you....and soon as she steps back away from you she gets the release....be sure not to chase her, but soon as she backs you leave her alone.....
Pressure and release of pressure. Where you put it is what she responds to. That's it.
Don't take things personal. No emotions. No anger. Nothing like that. Anger can cause her to get defensive and come in even more, knowing that has worked in the past to get a release of pressure.
Your focus is very important. That's why it will help you to pick a spot on her body to move that spot. That spot moves, it'll take the rest of the horse with it.
Also, if you put emotions into it and get angry and all that, you can make it worse, because your horse can go into defensive mode and she may then "call your bluff" if you back up or back off. This is why I choose not to tell people to get angry or use punishment. I've found that it's better to keep it more "it's just business" and just focus and use pressure and release in a pattern with rhythm....so then the horse can learn that and respond accordingly.
Then it's just a matter of .... how consistent are you....to make the lesson stick and stay sticking for good. It won't take long if you keep in mind the pattern and use of pressure....1..2..3..4... each number represents an "upping" of pressure. The moment the horse responds, you put the release there.
Do the work now and only need maintenance later and the horse learns and keeps this lesson in mind for good.