Now a year passed. He is easily lead on a rope, gives his hooves, doesn't rear or buck, doesn't mess with me when I'm in his stable, he lunges well, etc... (he isn't ridden- he is foundered rescue pony)
I can work with him just fine, although I still don't trust him completly. He still nips sometimes, but NO is enough and he stops immediatly. I don't need no whip to lunge him, he is great with voice commands. He walks away from me when I give voice comand, and moves his hindquarters away the same way.
But my mom is scared of him and refuses to work with him. She moves horses to field when I'm in school and she told me one day he reared on her when she was moving on the field. She ran away. He was an angel that day, when I worked with him. Next day she told me he reared on her again. She ran away again, and let him win.
Then my injury happened and I didn't lunge him or do anything with him. But I brushed him and clean his hooves everyday (mom doesn't dare to).
Now 2 weeks later I was on the field with him and my mare. He was pushing himself on the fence to get some neighbours grass, so I went to him and touch him to go away, like I always do. He turned and bite in my direction. Very pissed off. I smacked him (not hard, just that it made a sound) and he did a little rear and bolted in my direction. I moved away because he would crush into me. Then I took a whip and made him run. I didn't hit him. After few minutes I told him to stop and he came to me. I patted him and he was ok. Then 10 minutes passed and I wanted to move him again, wondering if he will attack again. He reared and I made him run again (with a whip in my hands - he doesn't attack if I hold something). Still didn't hit him, since he did as I wanted (trotted, cantered). Then I called him and put the whip away, went to him and asked him to go few steps back. He reared a big time! Again I took a whip, hit him, and make him run. After a minute I put him on lunge and he did everything as I wanted, no whip or anything, but there is a lunge rope. I don't know if he would be good without it. He backed as I asked and did the same 10minutes later without me holding anything in my hands.
Did I do right?
Will he ever respect me?
Did this happened because I didn't work with him for some time? Or because he could win with rearing with mom? Both?
What to do with relationship between mom and him?
Mare is his boss and she does the same things to him as he does to people.
As far as I know he had never lived in a herd till now (only in stable, fastened, sure he could see another horses, but not interact with them) and he never learned how to respect a man. He is 6 years old.
I'm going to work a lot with him and I'm planning on getting a trainer in one month.