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Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: South East Texas
^ I agree. Because of my job, I may be working with my mare and suddenly have to stop and leave her for a considerably long time (often over an hour) and I have to be able to just tie her and leave her, and expect for her to be calmly waiting for me when I return. I do usually throw her a bit of hay to occupy her if I know that I will be gone for more than an hour, but she still stands perfectly quiet even without hay. How did I get her this way? By letting her de-stress herself.
She used to be terrible on the leadline, no respect at all for her halter or lead rope. So I would work her in a rope halter and do excessive respect/ground work with her until she realized that any pressure that was put on her could be rectified by simply thinking it through. If she was being pulled, she could step forwards and find release. If she was tangled at all, she could unwrap herself. Then I'd find a nice tall branch, tie her so that she couldnt get her head below her elbow, and I just walked away. She would huff and puff and pace and snort...but I would just continue to do that every day until she realized that there was nothing wrong with being tied, and that nothing was going to make her uncomfortable or put pressure on her unless she moved first. Now, I can leave for even a few hours and find her in the same spot that she was in when I left, quietly dozing in the shade.
Patience isn't something that horses can learn without being first taught dominance- with the dominant one being you. She has to realize that you can put her wherever you want whenever you want for however long you want and she needs to be ok with that- and that it can actually be a pleasant thing. Whether you do that by just letting her work it out herself or by another method, once she does figure out what you want, I highly doubt that you'll have any more problems with her.
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