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    02-21-2012, 11:57 AM
  #1
Weanling
Wink Paying Your Dues...Facing Your Fears...Being A Good Rider.

Paying Your Dues…

So you got a horse or your thinking about getting one and you are new to the game or maybe your not. You imagine in your head that you are going to somehow be the “lucky one” who gets all of the rewards of being a good rider without having to pay your dues. Getting bucked off, reared up on, getting kicked, getting bit somehow are not going to happen to you because your special. Wrong. That’s the little thing in your head that you need to get rid of right now. If your going to play the game your going to get hurt at some point. No one gets outta paying their dues on the road to being a good equestrian. And its going to keep you tip-toeing around with your horse trying to prevent this from happening that’s going to rob you of having the “brass tacks” to be a good rider.

You in a way are “desensitizing” yourself just like you are your horse. You know what you are afraid of inside…you have to “cowgirl or cowboy up” and face them…head on…and then get over it to pay your dues and gain confidence. Proper handling of a horse may lessen your spills BUT you will never escape them. I face them proudly. I accept them gladly. For every bad thing that happens something good comes of it.

You WILL have your toes stepped on. Right now I am growing back my big toenail because it got crushed. You WILL get bitten a time or two from disrespectful animals. You will get knocked down, drug around. You WILL get bucked off a time or two. You WILL fall out of the saddle on a horse that jumps to the left while your body is going to the right. You WILL have horses that rear up on you before you even know it’s going to happen. You WILL have a horse run off on you who doesn’t listen to any attempts at stopping it. Why? Because it is all just part of the dues. Sure you can hope it never happens. Sure you can live in fantasy land and think it’s somehow going to miss you because you are so skilled, your horse is so passive…ect. But if you wanna be a good rider you got to accept the lessons and some of those are harder lessons to learn.

There is a lot of joy to being an equestrian but there is some lessons that are painful but necessary. So if you want to be a good horseman, buck up, and accept your dues. Get ready and be prepared to be scared outta your skin a time or two…but when it happens take a deep breath and relax…you will live and be “desensitized” on a new level. Each wrung on the ladder you “earn” it is never given to you. A horse sniffs out your fear like a carrot in your pocket. The more relaxed you are to the idea of getting your butt thrown in the dirt the less it will happen. But make no mistake it will happen. I am not trying to scare you but I am a realist…if you wanna play this game…get prepared to get thrown. Stop tiptoeing around the fear…face it like a warrior…and know you are going to be a hell of a better rider in the end.
     
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    02-21-2012, 12:15 PM
  #2
Weanling
And you will a better rider for paying your dues. Riders who manange to put off those dues start to fear them.

Alix - who took a hind leg to the gut last weekend from a scared filly. One tiny bruise is all that is left after the air got back into my lungs.
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    02-21-2012, 01:12 PM
  #3
Yearling
First words to my daughter, who's just starting out (I've been doing this crazy stuff for 20+ years).

"You will fall off, you will get hurt, you will want to give up. But if this is what you really want to do, You will get back on, you will wipe away the tears, and you will make yourself go back. I will ALWAYS be there the whole time, and help you back up, but if you want to be like me, it's up to you to stick with it."
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    02-21-2012, 01:53 PM
  #4
Banned
I must be halfway or more paid up on my dues account.

In one year

Falls: somewhere between 8 and 10. Most were harmless, one sent me to the ER

Injuries: sprained groin, sprained hips/lower back, several bruises on hips/butt, separated shoulder.

Bucks: two, within 10 minutes of each other this past Saturday

Bolt: once, back in November. Horse spooked in arena as deer passed by and launched into a crazy head down gallop till I fell off around one of the corners.

Been stepped on a time or two but never full on crushed toe

No bites, kicks, or rears yet and I'd prefer to keep it that way.
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    02-21-2012, 02:00 PM
  #5
Yearling
Quote:
Originally Posted by mildot    
I must be halfway or more paid up on my dues account.

In one year

Falls: somewhere between 8 and 10. Most were harmless, one sent me to the ER

Injuries: sprained groin, sprained hips/lower back, several bruises on hips/butt, separated shoulder.

Bucks: two, within 10 minutes of each other this past Saturday

Bolt: once, back in November. Horse spooked in arena as deer passed by and launched into a crazy head down gallop till I fell off around one of the corners.

Been stepped on a time or two but never full on crushed toe

No bites, kicks, or rears yet and I'd prefer to keep it that way.
Oh, H***, you've just started
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    02-21-2012, 04:42 PM
  #6
Weanling
You guys are GREAT! And yadlim you hit it on the head...if you don't just pay up...you start to seize up from fear. It's a beautiful thing the strength this sport gives us and theres only way way to it...but to do it ;)
     
    02-21-2012, 04:52 PM
  #7
Yearling
I was to by an orthopedic surgeon and a physical therapist that I have the body of a 78 yr old steel mill worker. 1. I don't know what a 78 yr old steel mill worker looks like, but I'm guessing it's not good and 2. I was 28 when they told me that

I think I paid my dues a few times. Does that mean I can get a refund?
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    02-21-2012, 07:11 PM
  #8
Trained
Quote:
Originally Posted by mildot    
I must be halfway or more paid up on my dues account.

In one year

Falls: somewhere between 8 and 10. Most were harmless, one sent me to the ER

Injuries: sprained groin, sprained hips/lower back, several bruises on hips/butt, separated shoulder.

Bucks: two, within 10 minutes of each other this past Saturday

Bolt: once, back in November. Horse spooked in arena as deer passed by and launched into a crazy head down gallop till I fell off around one of the corners.

Been stepped on a time or two but never full on crushed toe

No bites, kicks, or rears yet and I'd prefer to keep it that way.
Gee Mildot, you better learn to stick on!!!
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    02-21-2012, 10:23 PM
  #9
Foal
Very well stated! I have been riding my entire life. Except for the last 12 years. I just bought an OTTB 3 weeks ago. I always had AQHA horses. Thoroughbreds are quite different! My boy is quiet but different. I found that I have lost some skill and confidence. I really get down on myself at the rustiness of my riding skills. The knowledge is still in my brain, but my body is not so sharp. I am hoping with consistent hard work, good training, my mojo will return. I am determined to regain the skill and finese I once had. My horse has an amazing heart and talent. We will take this journey together!
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    02-21-2012, 10:32 PM
  #10
Foal
It's like wrecking a motorcycle - not "if" but "when"
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