I shareboarded on him. I didnt own him. Otherwise, of course I would have put more time into him. But he has a perfectly good home and he does very well at his day job of being a livery horse in a large group. Theres no danger for him with me moving on, except maybe less cookies^^
I just felt like we werent a good match temperament wise and since there was no danger for him I knew that to continue enjoying riding I needed a xhange.
Originally Posted by FrancesB
Sounds to me like your horse is afraid of going out without his herd, and doesn't trust you to keep him safe. Perfectly sensible from a horse's point of view. So you can either change what you do (eg ride with a larger group or in areas he feels safe and gradually extend), spend the time developing a deep and trusting relationship with him to the point where he will trust you to go out with just you (eg friendship training) or get another horse. Depends on your objectives, what kind of promises you made the horse, how much time you are willing to spend, etc. If he is just going back to a former happy home that is one thing, if you moving him on means he goes to a sale barn - that's much less ok in my opinion. Sometimes relationships don't work out, sometimes they will if we are willing to put enough in. Depends on your circumstances I guess and the answer might be different for each of us.
:) For me, I couldn't face the guilt of walking away and breaking the promise I'd made to my boy, even though in practical terms he was far too much horse for a very inexperienced person. Searching for a solution is what lead me to an answer (the Friendship Training I post about in another thread) and I am delighted with how it is going. But the answer is different for each of us.
I guess guilt reminds us of the consequences of our actions for another being; we have to weigh it up along with everything else in coming to a decision.
Hope it works out well for you both,