"Playing the Hero" -- when to 'stick with it' & when to realize it's time to move on. - Page 21 - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #201 of 225 Old 12-13-2012, 01:39 PM
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Queen Creek Arizona
Posts: 7
• Horses: 1
Well written, and I agree completely. I got my Belgian 3 years ago... have learned a lot... and he is a truly fantastic animal. I wouldn't trade him for anything.. in spite of having suffered a broken back (spinous process, T6-T9) and clavicle. When I bought him, I knew he was a project horse.... since he is my first horse, I was a project rider. At this point, the issues I have with him have to do with my experience level as a rider.
geekwithahorse is offline  
Sponsored Links
post #202 of 225 Old 12-22-2012, 03:20 PM
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: South Mississippi
Posts: 72
• Horses: 4
I Know this family; 4 daughters, "barrel trainer" mother, and a rich vet dad. They have so much money they will buy high strung, high performance horses for there 5 year old daughter. The horses are ALWAYS wayyy to much for the children to handle. Most the time while running a set of barrels, they cry through the whole set and have no control over the horse. And if they don't get 1st place, the mom yells or sells the horse and buys a better one. It's ridiculous. I feel so bad for the kids, 1 can ride, but the others have no control. The parents definitely need a reality check. When I read your post on how the horse are to advanced for their riders I immediately though of them.
MeganJoey57 is offline  
post #203 of 225 Old 01-02-2013, 09:36 PM
Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: South Carolina
Posts: 21
• Horses: 1
Great post!!! I'd love to see more people read this before buying a horse. I don't think its possible to overemphasize how unrealistic movies and novels are about training and taming horses.
jmdnarri is offline  
post #204 of 225 Old 01-21-2013, 11:29 AM
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: NM
Posts: 35
• Horses: 0
Though an older post, this is an excellent one, JustDressageIt, which gives pause for thought. My situation is similar. As a non-horse person trying to decide whether to keep the neighbor's 5 year old green horse here and learning with her to have a basic respect relationship it could be too risky for me. Some folks on the forum have advised me to send her home. The only "trainer" around is my husband who adores the horse but has no time to work with us. Right now I don't know who is more stubborn--me or the horse!
Horseshygranny is offline  
post #205 of 225 Old 01-23-2013, 06:40 PM
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 19
• Horses: 1
JustDressageIt: I really like your original post. I feel like there's more than just wanting to find the horse a good home, once you've realized it's behond your skill level... here in Alberta, Canada, over 300 horses are slaughtered a day according to rescue farm statistics. Even selling a horse to a good home, you never know where it may end up for the rest of it's life. It's tough for people in this situation I think, because they want to make something out of the horse to insure it won't end up becoming a slaughter horse - so a lot of people hang on to that "hero" thing you mention, because they don't want to face reality on the horses' future. I myself have been looking for a safe happy forever home for one of my horses (who I admitedly know is behond my skill level), but the matter of fact is that 4 years later, I still pay for this horse to hangout in a pasture, simply because I'm afraid of where he might end up.
AlbertaGirl is offline  
post #206 of 225 Old 02-03-2013, 01:07 PM
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Canada
Posts: 2
• Horses: 0
I have never given up on any horse.However,my horses are family and I don't do shows.I guess that I believe any horse is "fixable" with time and patience.
Bettabites likes this.
WilliamJames is offline  
post #207 of 225 Old 02-05-2013, 04:38 PM
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: AZ
Posts: 18
• Horses: 0
Amazing post and replies! All of it is SO true! I'm the young kid in those stories...bu i'm finally coming to the realization it's okay to sell the horse if it's better for you and the horse. I hate the comments nonhorse people make tho when you talk to them about putting your horse up for sale. :/ But i'm getting thicker skin and caring less about their comments.

I am just wondering...how do you sell the horse that is too much for you if you can't show it to the potential buyer?

My riding level is more beginner now than intermediate since I haven't been in lessons for about four years now and don't have the money (with paying for college) to take lessons or hire a trainer.
Bettabites is offline  
post #208 of 225 Old 02-05-2013, 08:04 PM
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: Washington State
Posts: 109
• Horses: 2
The buyer should be the one riding the horse imo. Be honest in your description and explain that he is simply over your skill level. There's no shame in being over-horsed, we have all been there.
Posted via Mobile Device
Skunkworks is offline  
post #209 of 225 Old 02-05-2013, 08:54 PM
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: AZ
Posts: 18
• Horses: 0
I think that too, but I wasn't sure how this all works. What if the buyer wants me to ride him? I don't want to lose a sale because I can't show off what my horse can do.I've been honest with how he is and what he does and the buyer is interested in seeing him on Monday. I want him to be his best so the buyer can see it too.
Bettabites is offline  
post #210 of 225 Old 02-07-2013, 04:59 PM
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Texas
Posts: 19
• Horses: 1
I was put in a position about a year ago to to "help" a friend of a friend's horse. Turned out the filly was severely abused and not only didn't trust people, I don't think she likes us much. Long story short, coming to the decision to find a home for her was not a problem for me (I value life & limb) my problem was the responsibility I took on to ensure new owners understood her issues. I find that people overstate their ability and/or understate the problem. In any case, I found this girl a home with a very good trainer and while she won't be doing pony-rides at kiddie parties anytime soon, she trusts mankind a tad more. Thanks for posting!
Rob55 likes this.
JeniTex is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Lacey "playing" in the sunshine! Wallaby Horse Pictures 5 02-19-2010 12:05 AM
Clinton Anderson videos: "Gaining Respect & Control 1-2-3" and "Leads & Lead Changes" Velvetgrace Tack and Equipment Classifieds 5 09-18-2009 06:54 PM
Definitions of "Green" "Started" "Broke" etc... Horse Hippie Horse Training 12 08-31-2009 03:00 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome