JustDressageIt: I really like your original post. I feel like there's more than just wanting to find the horse a good home, once you've realized it's behond your skill level... here in Alberta, Canada, over 300 horses are slaughtered a day according to rescue farm statistics. Even selling a horse to a good home, you never know where it may end up for the rest of it's life. It's tough for people in this situation I think, because they want to make something out of the horse to insure it won't end up becoming a slaughter horse - so a lot of people hang on to that "hero" thing you mention, because they don't want to face reality on the horses' future. I myself have been looking for a safe happy forever home for one of my horses (who I admitedly know is behond my skill level), but the matter of fact is that 4 years later, I still pay for this horse to hangout in a pasture, simply because I'm afraid of where he might end up.