Though an older post, this is an excellent one, JustDressageIt
, which gives pause for thought. My situation is similar. As a non-horse person trying to decide whether to keep the neighbor's 5 year old green horse here and learning with her to have a basic respect relationship it could be too risky for me. Some folks on the forum have advised me to send her home. The only "trainer" around is my husband who adores the horse but has no time to work with us. Right now I don't know who is more stubborn--me or the horse!