Join Date: May 2009
Location: Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada
I understand completely where kevinshorses is coming from. As an accomplished trainer with a serious work ethic, the last thing a barn like that needs to do is take chances on teenagers. Maybe one in a hundred DO have a better work ethic then most adults, but what barn wants to keep taking those chances? Accomplished barns and trainer would typically rather pay their help then run the risk of something not being done because of "boyfriend problems" or "my mom won't drive me".
Essentially, it all falls into kevinshorses being able to give the perspective of an employer - and he's completely right. I've been there, trust me. Most barns simply will not take the chance of giving a 14 year old chores such as morning turnout because it's not like a regular job - if you don't show up, serious repercussions will ensue.
I think it's a little ridiculous that we're being told we're being mean to her. Help comes in all forms, and more often then not, attempting to coat it in sugar completely defeats the purpose of trying to relay the message in the first place. The OP seems like a dedicated horse person, we're being realistic so she doesn't ruin her chances right off the get go by being rude to a prominant employer who then spreads the word about her. If you want to break into the horse world full-time, you better be prepared to learn the politics, even at a young age. This isn't even like "real world" where you get to lolly gag around - one wrong step even at this age with the wrong employer could destroy her chances of breaking big in the future.
I hope God tells her to smash her computer with a sledgehammer.