Have you ever started a horse before? If not, wait till you can have professional help. Please. For your sake and your horse's.
If you don't know exactly what you're doing, you could get badly hurt.
No, I have never started a horse before. I have had my horse for 5 years and we have been looking for a good professional trainer (they are hard to come by around here....if they even answer your phone calls. :P) since we got him. We have found a trainer but we don't have the finances as of now (My mom just had to put a new engine in her truck) so I am going to do it myself.
Make sure you have done everything on the ground first! Its better to do everything OUT of the saddle and then that part will come later. And that he respects you. If any sign of shyness, or spookiness, you will not want to get on.
Sack him out first, gain respect, and show him its better to stand quietly and respectfully, or he will have to work. Horses are lazy creatures and would rather be at peace, But you must teach him that and have him trust you.
I wish you luck, and be careful. Always have someone else with you for the first month or so. Also watch any of Clinton Andersons tv shows, they help alot with "problem" horses or horses that are shy or gaining respect.
I've definitely done lots of ground work! The the other boarders at the farm who see me training him always say "Haven't you gotten in the saddle yet??" "What is that horse a pasture ornament?" lol!
When I work with him we go on walks around the farm, I make him jump over logs, walk over tarps, walk around dogs, swinging gates, big scary objects. I try to do everything I would do if I was in the saddle so getting in the saddle will just be a different point of view for him. Like I said above we have had him for 5 years so I have really been doing ground work with him for 5 years while we have been looking for a trainer.
I have sacked him out a couple of times. He barely spooks at anything now unless its windy or he is feeling frisky.
We have a very strong bond and we trust each other a lot. I made sure to establish trust when I first got him. He is kind of a personal horse. He does things with me that he doesn't do with other people and he lets me do things to him that he doesn't let other people do.
I always have my mom around when I am working with him and I always always always have a helmet on when I am going to be working with him with the saddle. My mom would kill me if I didn't do either so no worries there! lol
What I am going to do for now is work with him in a bridle and long lines. I hope to at least be in the saddle by the end of the summer. We'll see how it goes!
Thank you for the advice!