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post #51 of 58 Old 03-06-2010, 09:44 AM
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LOL! This thread has gone from the pros/cons of a one person horse to how to chose a husband/wife! .....And yet there is a lot of truth in both being somewhat connected.

Me, well I'm the loyal / faithful type. And both my horses are of the same temperament, with me that is. Both will do what ever I ask, even if they may have a few misgivings, they know I will not risk their well being. Same thing with my husband. I may question a few decisions (as he will with me) but we know neither of us will risk each others well being or relationship.

Here's a question. Do you think a horse's personality can be "changed" by the personality (granted that includes handling ect) of the owner/handler so that for example a very reactive horse can change into a calm thinking horse if the owner/handler is very calm, confident ect.? Much like a calm thinking horse can become a nervous hyper horse from being owned/handled by a hyper/nervous person?

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post #52 of 58 Old 03-06-2010, 09:51 AM
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While I agree that you have words of wisdom from a very experienced horseman, some of us while not so wise may have picked horses that weren't suited for us maybe at first.
I was once told need to make a choice to either decide if this horse isn't the best choice for you or learn, do all you can to be the right person for the horse. While I do not believe my horse is just a one person horse, he does behave better for me at certain times ...i.e farrier , vet etc...but others have handled him and have ridden him successfully. He is boarded so many other people do handle him on a daily basis. I wouldn't say 100 percent of the time he is respectful and minds his manners(so to speak) If the person doing the handling isn't very comfortable he will def. pick up on it.

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post #53 of 58 Old 03-06-2010, 10:20 AM
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To get back on topic....

I don't mean to sound harsh, but the only "pros," from what I have read on this thread, of having a one-person horse benefit the ego of the horse's handler rather than the horse. It appears that owners feel good about themselves (and I don't mean everyone on this thread, as some people mentioned that they are working on it, but the title of the thread asks for pros and cons, which assumes there must be a pro) when their horse only listens to them. You feel special, empowered, loved when you have this horse that appears to only "love" you and is a nightmare for anyone else handle.

While it's fantastic that they have a great bond with their horses, there are plenty of other people who have great bonds with horses that can be easily handled and ridden by others. Having good manners and behaving in a reasonable way with whoever is on its back or at the end of a lead rope doesn't preclude a horse from having a "special" bond with its owner.

Can anyone suggest any advantage a horse might have in being a one person horse and leave human psychology aside?

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post #54 of 58 Old 03-06-2010, 11:19 AM
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I have the opposite problem, My horse is possessive of me! She hates when I pet other horses, if she's standing by she reaches her neck out at the other horse and her upper lip flares. She's not too keen on me talking on the phone, especially when I take a call while I groom her. If I stop to talk to another person with her, she acts as if she wants to be in on the conversation. I feel like she's saying "mommy, mommy, look at me, me, me!" She seems to be so used to having all my attention that she doesn;t know what to do with herself when I'm diverted. lol.

I guess I don't truly know if I have a one person horse. I do know that I am the only person that has truly owned her and I pretty much exclusively have worked with her. she started the handling process late, at 4 years old. Before then she was desensitized to people, yes, they would feed her carrots and throw her food, occasionally pet her, but it was just her and her sister wandering in a huge field. She had no prior vet, farrier, or dental care, AT FOUR! She's pretty acclimated to anyone handling her now, I mean she's young, so she has her moments, but ask joe schmoe to take it to the ring and she will test you out. I guess if anyone is up to that test and passes she'd be a multiple person horse, which case in point, has happened with all the trainers I have worked with. They worked through her hiccup and everything was fine after that.

Maybe this has a tendency to happen to horses that have only ever had one owner, or horses that have been abused and then finally find relief in one owner? I don't know, perhaps I am romanticizing things.
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Sometimes when you have a difficult horse you learn how to handle the horse better than someone that hasn't been around that horse. I had a QH mare off the race track and she was great about everything but shoeing. The farrier would come out and if I held her I could handle her just right and she wouldn't fight too much. When I moved to go to college and the farrier came he brought his wife to help him. The wife did something that the mare took offense to and she reared up and the woman was struck on the hand and it broke her thumb. I don't know if she didn't get after the horse enough or if she got after her too much but in the two years that I had been handling her during shoeing she had never reacted strongly enough to create an injury like that.

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post #56 of 58 Old 03-06-2010, 12:47 PM
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I have a "one-person" horse and I detest it. She's getting better now, because I don't find anything cute or fun about an animal like that. Zierra is well trained enough that she serves as a good mount if some friends come out to ride, and I really don't need to worry about her acting like an idiot with a city slicker because she figures I should be on her back.

I don't even know how it surfaced. Maybe not ENOUGH other riders? She broke out as such a quiet 4 year old, my novice boyfriend actually rode her for about a year because her dam was too bat**** crazy for anyone else to handle. She'd mosey at the back of the trail group, happy as a clam to be on a loose rein and enjoying the scenery.

When she moved to Elaines at 5 years old, I became her sole rider, but I let Elaine use her for lessons. That didn't go over well. After one 20 minute session of a rider 20x better then me not being able to even make her move more then a foot at a time, Elaine politely thanked me and told me to have my head examined. (not really) During this time, I got into a fight with a couple girls who began to abuse Zierra for it, and sic their dog on her.

Unfortunately, she moved back to my grandpa's when she was 6 years old, and I really became her sole rider for about 2 years (nobody to ride with). The one time I let my idiot boyfriend ride her, he tried to show off, so she bolted and piled him hard (the same animal I can jump on without any headgear in a pasture and fart around with, or control easily with just a halter). Different boyfriend then when she was 4, haha.

I met Shay-la about three years ago, and for whatever reason, she took to Shay-la. I don't know what I was thinking, but Shay-las first ride on her was with a broken leg in a cast Zierra was an angel.

Since then, me and Shay-la can ride her fine, but she's still touchy with strangers. She spends about 15 minutes, dancing and blowing and acting like an idiot, and if you don't get scared and do something silly, then you've "passed her test" and can ride. Just don't dare catch her mouth or bounce her back, only me and Shay-la can do those things!

It's a pain. I honestly hate that she's like this. You have to be this perfect combination (like kevinshorses was saying) of a good rider but NOT aggressive or pushy or she'll shut down. So she spooks novice riders and challanges advanced riders.

I've already got Shay-la AND Ashley doing little stints on Jynx I never want a "one-person" horse again!!!

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I don't like the idea of a one person horse. Yea, it seems like it would be a really nice thing to have, just between you and your horse, but I would hate to tell someone they can't ride my horse because she only likes me. I really enjoy letting people ride that don't get to do it because they don't have horses, so the one person horse probably wouldn't work for me.

Although, I have to say, in the same respect, in a way I hate when other people ride lol. I know that sounds confusing, but I just hate they way they ride my horse because if they don't know what they are doing they make her sour. I don't know, honestly lol. I guess I just like to make people feel good by letting them ride, I just hate how they do it...I think thats what I'm trying to get at haha.

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post #58 of 58 Old 03-06-2010, 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted by thesilverspear View Post
Haha. I wish my judgment of men was HALF as good as my judgment of horses. :) I can spot a good horse a mile away and every horse I have ever bought has been awesome. I can't say the same about guys I've dated.
The flip side: I've often wished women's judgement of men (and me in particular ) was one tenth as good as the judgement of their horses (and dogs &c).
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