Rebuilding Horse-Human Relationship
So this April, a friend of mine called me up, concerned. She is an impulsive horse buyer, and is convinced her new appendix will be grander than her OTTB mare. So she offers me the mare for free.
I ride her a couple of times, have to have her, take her home. She was difficult to earn the trust of, and I never fully got it. We started a relaxed relationship, and were getting along fine, working together, but were still missing that element. It was coming! Slowly but surely though. I then got in a riding accident on a different horse, and couldn't ride at all. So I leased her for two months to a stable I trusted, for her to be a lesson horse. The stable did not work, to say the least. I went to go see her, and she was worked into the ground, barely fed, and never groomed. As soon as the contract expired I got her home (regardless of my handicap) and fattened her up. I am now riding again, and she is not the same horse.
She is faster, ruder, pushier, hard-mouthed, and runs from me in the pasture. I am certain it has to do with the past two months, and I have been trying to work with her on the ground for respect and other aspects, but she just runs me over. I know how to deal with pushy horses, and I know how to deal with her. But she was not a pushy horse, or like this at all.
Does anyone have an idea on how to regain this reationship? I understand her anger, and know I should relearn her thought process... But I'm not sure how to go about meeting the same horse twice, since she is probably the same deep down.