THANK YOU iridehorses!
Having a lead horse would help me the most, but I have nobody to ride with. :( Where do you live again? I'm going to take something from all three of you and apply them on my next ride. Thanks so much!
I took Stella out last night with the intention to get past the farm as peacefully as possible, however long it would take, and no further. Well, it was a real test of my patience, but we made it past the farm!
I started out trying to keep her moving and not letting her stop, but go in circles as iride suggested, but it just made her overly excited to where she would ignore my cues and just try to back up as fast as she could toward home (I'm sure I was doing something wrong). Sooo, I played the waiting game as Arrow suggested. I didn't let her point her nose in any direction but forward and I'd wait. When she showed me a sign of relaxing such as taking a deep breath, licking her lips or cocking a hind leg I'd squeeze. She would literally take two steps and stop. I'd let her take it all in, wait for her to relax, then squeeze. It took 48 min. To get past that place! Once we got past it I turned her around to head back home, but took her in big circles until we got past the farm again so that for a minute she'd have to go back the other way, but then we'd be headed home again (if that makes sense).
That was the most satisfying ride I've been on in a long time and I owe it to you guys! During the whole ride your words kept flashing in my mind. Thanks so much!