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post #1 of 7 Old 09-24-2013, 07:50 PM Thread Starter
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Should I continue lessons?

I have had my 8 year old QH mare for about 18 months. I had little to no confidence when I first started on her. When I went out on trails I would let her get away with bad behavior because I was afraid if I corrected her she would buck or rear. After awhile I began to trust her more and tried to begin to correct her. Mostly she did as I asked. I changed bits after advice from a friend and got better response from her.
I still wanted to improve my skills so I began to take lessons with a friend. One of my horses main issues is that she get buddy sour on the trail. She will focus on a horse usually my friends mare and she has to be by her. She will threaten to or kick another horse that get to close. She also will spook with no warning aand once dumped me. she gets really excited if we go out with new horses. The trainer was having me work on this by making me work at a walk going in opposite direction of my friend and many times she would ride her own horse by at a walk or trot.
The thing is that my friend taking lessons (we've been going for a couple of months) is trotting circles doing patterns etc while I just walk my horse around the arena. I'm getting bored and I think my horse is too. I also feel like my friend gets more coaching.i have learned some things mainly that I ride with my reins to loose so I don't have time to turn her away or stop her if she misbehaves. I told my trainer I want to take a break for a couple of weeks but really am undecided if I should continue. My friend loves lessons but I much prefer to be out on the trail.
What do you think?
Also between lessons I was trail riding and did see some improvement.
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post #2 of 7 Old 09-24-2013, 08:31 PM
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Yes I would encourage you to continue taking lessons. I would also probably ask for a private lesson so you get one on one instruction. I'd be bored silly too. You also have the option of finding another instructor that will help you grow as a rider.
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post #3 of 7 Old 09-24-2013, 08:48 PM
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you would do well to take a trail ride WITH the trainer (she on her own horse) so you can show her some of the issues as they happen in real life.
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I agree with Tiny, also maybe express to your trainer you're feeling bored during the lessons and maybe she can try to focus on you a little more and help you move forward some! Just ask if you can do a lesson on the trails maybe once a month or something.
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IMO it sounds like you and your horse really aren't a match. Horseback riding should be fun and generally not anxiety provoking. If your constantly worried about your horse acting up or possibly throwing you off your not having fun. Like wise your horse probably isn't either, not to mention the bad habits that are just becoming ingrained in her. A horse for a beginner with confidence issues should never buck/rear/bolt/kick, shouldn't be buddy sour and should be forgiving, steady, reliable, and predictable.

If I were you I would take lessons on a steady Eddie who is going to boost your confidence. I would make the decision to keep or sell your horse in the mean time. If your going to keep the horse I would have a trainer ride your horse. When you feel confident on the schoolie try the skills out on your mare.
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I have had a tumultuous time with my Paint horse but I feel that all the work I have put into our training has been more than worth the effort. He was a green rising 7 year old when I bought him and have had the most success on the trail after working in the ring. It really taught him focus and to better listen to me. Hawk is 12 now and he's come such a long way. He's the perfect match for me. I guess what I'm saying is that if you're up for the challenge you can make a difference and the right trainer can help you. Best of luck!
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post #7 of 7 Old 09-28-2013, 03:38 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the advice. My horse is good about 90 percent of the time. On trails she will cross water, go over logs cross bridges even went went through a short tunnel that had water running through it. Her. Main problem is the being buddy sour with one of the horses we ride with. She wants to be right up on her butt and threatens to kick other horses if they get too close.
What I wanted to get out of lessons is how to deal with her when she does these behaviors plus general riding techniques. I've been riding for many years but in my 50s now. I've lost some of my confidence and was hoping to gain some from lessons. The mare I have has made a lot of improvements since I got her. She was never used on trails as far as I know.
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