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        06-30-2008, 04:13 PM
    No, I havnt told the barn manager/owner yet.

    I've been busy with doc appts, and things with the boyfriend. And looking at houses for sale.

    I plan to next time I see her though
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        06-30-2008, 06:05 PM
    I work in a riding school and have dealt with these type of clients.
    Your first priority is to report any abuse to a manager .!!!!!
    If the manager is indifferent to the problem you have two options

    1) is this rider approachable? If so maybe use a few white lies to start a conversation. Advise the rider you had a similar problem with your horse and tell them how you dealt with it. If they have brains they will take any advice given and put it into practice.

    2) As harsh at it may seem if nothing else works you may have to involve someone outside the yard - eg. A parent ( if you are under age ) and maybe a local authority.

    Before you do anything try to get the manager to speak to these owners - as i'm sure you are aware some people just don't understand what the're doing is wrong.
        06-30-2008, 07:24 PM
    If you don't feel you can approach him directly without consulting your barn authorities, tell your barn manager, owner, trainer, staff, and vet (if they are around the barn a lot, at mine she's there every other day and tells us stuff about psychology and physiology, she's part of the staff) that you think someone needs to step in and will yourself if they don't mind. Don't say 'Bob's abusing his horse!' and be a drama queen. Just be like, 'I strongly disagree with the training methods Bob is using and, if your opinion is the same, I think we are obliged to make it clear that what he is doing is abuse and unacceptable. The next time he is here I think we should talk to him and supervise him.' Of course, being open with 'Bob' is better but I understand the need for 'backup'.

    Also, I think you should really have a talk with your mother. I doubt she really thinks animal abuse is acceptable. Maybe she didn't understand what he was doing?
        06-30-2008, 10:57 PM
    There isn't much you can do. See if you can someone with a higher power such as a trainer or barn owner to talk to them. If it is obviously abusive getting the proper local authorities involved would be the right step.
    Good Luck :)
        07-01-2008, 09:16 AM
    This is a really tough situation for you-especially since you are so young- you know it is wrong and it is abuse-the whole idea that something that is bigger feels less pain-ridiculous at best. Doing the right thing is usually difficult, the fact that you are so upset tells me you are a caring person- yes be diplomatic if you approach the man-go to the owner of the barn and go to the authorites if you have to. Really gets me that a full grown man has to resort to abuse to get control- and like people have said-talk to your Mother-that is a relationship that will hopefully last a lifetime-always worth the time to talk.

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