Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Midwest Indiana
I firmly believe that it is our responsibility to be the voice our horses lack. Especially if she is a friend of yours. Do what you can, hope for the best, but unfortunately it is her horse, and there is only so much you can do.
Does your friendship matter more or the horse? If my friends was treating her horse that way, and I did my best to facilitate intelligent and meaningful but not condescending conversations about how I viewed her behavior, and she didn't change, we would not be friends.
I am in no way advocating you dump your friend. In the horse world, you are going to run into so much of this, it's maddening. You have to decide where the line is and hold fast to your beliefs. In my personal opinion, if you watch it happen and do nothing to stop it (when reasonably in your realm of possible control, like a close friend) then you are letting it happen, which is the same as condoning it. And that's what anyone that sees you will think if you continue to associate yourself with her and she does not stop this behavior.
At least it is a lesson you are learning at a young age.
However, I am NOT saying be haughty or high and mighty about it. Be kind, be helpful, attempt to educate, or move on.
If you are going to teach a horse something and have a good relationship, you don't make him learn it - you let him learn it.