I posted this thread prematurely, with hopes for ideas and went out and rode without checking this thread. I feel a bit silly for posting it now cos we rode again today, and whilst Honey didn't want to go any where "near" Seoul at first, she ended up calming considerably and in the end for some group photos it was a bit like this...
I took some thoughts into consideration and I do have to disagree with it being a lack of respect NOW. Yes the past accident went very wrong with an issue where space had been invaded, and not corrected... granted, I had very little time to react to it all and still its all very much a blur. I can however control NOW and work to ensure we are safe, but not "***** footing" either.
Today Honey was able to be ridden around the outside and inner circles of Seoul, as well as behind her and in front of her (the peeling thing, I've done that before and applied it today). We also did serpentines for focussing and several other exercises that made her relax and not bother about Seoul plodding along nearby.
I think the lesson I mostly learnt from today and this thread was to start believing in myself and realising that I'm not as incapable and needing advice as I feel.
Thanks everyone for taking the time for leaving a message, as well as the helpful advice, I will remember it for future reference.