SpiritHorse - You've been a BIG part of that. You gave me quite a few P4's that I needed, that goes for Jenny too LOL :)
Jiblet - I was in teh same position - I had NO idea that what I was doing to chance was considered abuse because I was around these people so long it became the normal thing. But Im glad I learned differently and found a lot softer and kinder ways to work with my horse in turn we are both happy. Thanks for the reply :)
Solon - I've seen where that's happened, someone at my barn is going through that now and its kinda sad.. I thought that was the case at first but when Chance puts her head in my chest and just stays there half falling asleep.. I know theres deffinatly something there. Chance is one of the less affectionate mares so when she does show it I will drop everything I had planned just to enjoy it when she puts herself out there. I can be sitting on the ground in front of her and she would just hover her head right above me with her chin on my head just resting. When she sees me across the pasture and will stop eatting just to watch and see where im going and if I look like im coming to her, she goes out of her way and comes TO me. Its a great feeling know that she wants to be there. Also when ever she spooks on ground like if we are walking in a new area or a scary shadow moves weirdly she will stop right in her tracks no matter how "scared" she is to not run over me. Or if she really can't stand still then she will go around me. I think that in general takes a lot of a horse to think about the human even when they feel there life could be in danger. When people flat out tell me that Chance would probably fall apart if I wasnt around.. means something.
But there are also times she could care less about me. Sometimes she sees me in teh pasture.. looks up .. and goes right back to her food... well that's what she thinks about me today :P
That just got me thinking.