iridehorses- just commenting on the quality of your post, but that was very well written.
I agree that Chance might not be the "best horse" for Michele at this point, she's very challenging, HOWEVER I do feel that even if the match isn't "right" from the get-go, that can be formed. It's all up to the person in the end....to become who that individual horse needs and to learn everything they can to make the process quicker and safer. A lot of people refuse/don't want to change for the horse, so they sell it. Me personally, I LOVE a challenge...a challenge of my knowledge, timing, feel, understanding, skill, all that! That's one of the reasons I get my hands on as many horses as I can! Lol. You don't get better if you keep working with "easy" horses, BUT there is a time where moving to a pretty challenging horse might not be the best idea...yet. With my horse now, was he too much for me? Probably. Did I know what to do with all of his extreme behaviors? Nope. Was I scared some times? You bet. Did I give up on him? Absolutely not. That's what everyone else did in his past, they gave up on him, said he was dangerous and vicious and wanted to put him down....all because they didn't think outside their box and search for better ways to work with him. I do not regret anything I've gone through with him....all the tears, all the doubt, all the fear I had, all the challenges he gave me....I look back now and think "Look at all the learning opportunities he has given me already!" I have absolutely grown as a horsewoman, and now my horse and I are having a blast, he is so playful and expressive and proud and we are doing some amazing things together.
I went off on my little story to drive home the point that if the person is willing to change, willing to learn, and willing to seek help when needed (which I did, I e-mailed my favorite PP all the time! Lol) and above all become a dedicated student, relationships with challenging horses like Chance and my guy CAN turn out amazing where you have outside people saying, "That horse was ever ____? Wow, you'd never be able to tell." I've had people say that about my guy. Michele needs to do a lot of things in order to be successful with Chance...but she knows this, I've talked to her about it before ;) lol!