Originally Posted by MyBoyPuck
It's sounds like these are fairly explosive spooks, but any chance you can do absolutely nothing when she spooks? If you talk to her and try to calm her when she's excited, you'll only be re-enforcing her fears and/or bad behavior. If you just keep walking like she was still walking calmly next to you, it will provide a far different vibe to her. Walk confident, tall and keep the lead slack. Maybe use a longer lead rope so you have some like to let out if she does jump. When she spooks, let her back up or jump sideways, but if it's safe to do so, keep you body facing in the direction you want to go and do not acknowledge the spook. As soon as she puts slack back in the line, take it up and continue walking like nothing happend. If these are far more explosive, than the above suggestion sucks, but if she is just playing you, this might work. Only you can be the judge of that.
100% agree! Tango is the same way. I mean, she rarely spooks to begin with, but if she does and you go up and fluster her with: "Oh, pretty pony, it's Ok! You're alright...blah blah blah" then it just freaks her out more. Your horse might be the same. Just keep walking like nothing happened. Lol. Whenever I do this with Tango now, I'll hear her start beside me but don't even acknowledge her and pull her on, with the mindset: "Come on, you foolish horse. I don't have time for your shenanigans" and she just quietly follows me.
For the first few times she might have severe spooks anyways, but the less YOU react, over time she'll realize that she doesn't need to worry. Of course, you need to make sure you're the boss mare. If she looks up to you and trusts you it'll make the whole not-spooking thing a bit easier.
And like RioPony said, make sure you are confident at ALL times! Unless, of course, you're doing something that's going to kill you, NEVER doubt yourself.