suggestions and opinions appreciated
Let me be very clear, I am a beginner. My knowledge of horses consists of the carosale in front of the K-Mart. I have always wanted horses and now that my kids are interested we decided to get one.
I recently bought a 15 y/o mare as a beginners horse for myself and my children, they are 3 and 7. I was very clear with the owner that she would be our first horse. She is a rescue, but they had had her for a while and the ladies 2 young daughters rode her. Now the daughters have more experience in their little toe than I do in my entire body, but she thought that "Molly" would do us well. So we rode her in their little area and she did well. My DH slid off her behind lifted on her hooves and she just stood there. The 2 girls were up, under, over, in between. She just stood there. Rode well with DH and 3 y/o daughter. I thought great this will be a good match. So, we loaded her up and brought her home.
It wasn't til a week later, due to weather that we were able to ride her again. I caught her no problem, tied her to a tree and my DH set my 3 y/o on her bareback while we groomer her. She stood stock still. But then came the saddling. I don't know how yet, so DH has to do it. She started moving around and trying to get out from under it. He finally got her saddled and briddled and I stepped back to let him get on. She started walking off on him and when he finally got on she started jerking her head and then took off. Bucking, rearing, and running. He said he wasn't sure at one point if he would be able to stop her. He finally got her calmed down enough to get off. I was ready to call the lady and ask what she had her lased with. He persuaded me to get on (it took a bit), and she just stood there. She did okay. A little faster paced than what I had hoped for and she kept trying to walk under trees. She doesn't neck rein I believe they call it, but she didn't try to take off on me or anything. My 7 y/o son wanted on her so we let him. He's about the size of a 12-14 y/o so I was a little nervous that she wouldn't like him. She did fine being lead around w/him on her back. We have chaulked it up to her not liking men. I have since noticed she a little spookish at load noises. Vet says she's healthy.
Sorry if this is long winded. I am very torn as to what to do. I hate to just sell her and not give her a chance, but the truth is I don't trust her enough now to put my kids on her or myself. My DH doesn't have the time to work with her and we really don't have facilities either. Yes, I agree we rushed into buying to quickly. But what to do now?? I am thinking of selling her and waiting til spring to take riding lesson with my kids, get a round pin and loafing shed up and then buying. What are your thoughts. Can I even sell a horse with these issues. By the way she's not registered.