Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: Tampa Bay area, FL
Ask her why she thinks she needs to be so heavy handed! In all seriousness, next time you go out there say "Hey! Why don't we switch horses today and go ride, my horse is sort of boring" and then just ride and see how light you can get her mare to be. If she starts getting rough with your horse, you can stop and say "HEY! He doesn't take cues that way, try it like this" and then show her. Does she take lessons? Has she ever taken lessons? It could be possible that she's dumb enough to think that all horses are like the dead-to-the-world school ponies and need to be practically beaten to get them moving.
Have you ever suggested if her horse doesn't cooperate with her that she just....find another horse? Two hot tempers are going to end badly one of these days, and her horse will probably suffer more for it than she will. I personally happen to like hot-blooded breeds, I like the way their personalities are, like the mares, where sometimes she just loses her brain/gets full of herself, and needs some reminding. Of course, I'm patient, and once backed my gelding to the other end of the arena because he didn't want to leave the gate, and that's the only way he would move. Maybe she needs something a little less tempramental, or even just a gelding.
To me though, I would just catch her attention next time her horse is freaking out and she's getting rough, and show her that if she calms down, her horse will calm down too....it sounds to me like she's scared of what will happen if she's not rough with her horse.
Last edited by justsambam08; 01-21-2010 at 02:16 PM.