Okay here comes Mean Miss Sky...
she would do anything for me and she respected me in every way. now she is a compleatly differnet horse. now she is dangerous, disrespectful, and she thinks she is the boss.
It takes me like 20 minutes to catch her,
She breaks the crossties every time she is tied up,
it takes forerver to put her bridle on she bobs her head to avoid the bridle and it is very difficult to get the headstall over her head, and when i eventually do i have to FORCE the bit into her mouth,
EVERY time I bring her to the mounting block she swings her butt around and turns to avoid me getting on her.
when I put my foot in the stirrup to mount without the block, she turns and wont let me get on, she pivots around.
When i ride her bareback she turns away from the mounting block and when i finally get on her she bucksand rears to throw me off.
when i try to lunge her i swing the line around to get her going, but she does not move, i do the same with the whip but it doesnt work. and i tap her with it but she doesnt move. sometimes she makes me sooo mad that i whip her with it and then i regret it.
once she was fine with me mounting and when i leaned to put the stirrup in she bolted as fast as she could, (she is a super fast arab) and she would not stop, the more i pulled and yelled the faster she ran,
PLEASE HELP!!! she is like a different horse. she doesent respect me anymore
she was perfect the first 3 weeks or so but now she is very bad and disrespectful.
what can i do to reverse all of this and bring everything back to normal
Per the bold, she never respected you. She just did what her leader asked and trusted THEM and once this horse found out that you were their new potential leader, this horse began to test you.
They do this in their herd too. It's called a pecking order. You currently are at the bottom.
Step up and be the leader that she's obviously not convinced that you are. All of these things I've omitted are you trying to explain the situation. How you didn't hurt her, abuse her, how she pisses you off or makes you angry.
That is NOT how you handle a horse. You don't scream with a bolting horse. You don't bribe a horse to open their mouth. You don't hop tentatively ask a horse to move forward when you "lunge"
You are seriously out horsed based on your understanding of horses.
Is this your first horse? What made you buy a horse?
She sounds like a typical horse testing you to see if you're the type she can trust to keep her ALIVE (they're prey animals) and so far you're falling short.
Find a trainer to work WITH you and this horse, if you intend to keep her. I mean SERIOUSLY work with her. Watch horses in pasture, learn how they communicate.
She did not change. In previous care she had a leader that looked out for her and so far she isn't impressed with your lack of horse communication and understanding.
Don't even ride her until you can handle her on the ground. You're going to get yourself killed if you keep this up.