Afraid I agree with Possum. Please
, for your(& hers too for that matter) safety's sake, don't continue to put yourself in danger with this horse, at least without good professional help! You're lucky you've only had minor accidents with her so far.
I also agree with Possum that it's likely that she's just 'got your number', that she has never learned to respect you(remember you've got to *earn* it, it's never automatic & can't be forced), but likely just humoured you for the first few weeks to learn what you were about.
**However I would also want to get her, your saddle, etc, assessed & make sure her behaviour isn't pain related. That could well be a big part of the equation that needs to be ruled out/treated before you work on training issues.
It takes me like 20 minutes to catch her, and I don't chase her, its like she is saying"Na,Na,Na,Na you can't catch me!!" and is playing a game to piss me off.
The questions I'd be asking are, why doesn't she want to come when called & what can you do to change her motivation, make you an attractive prospect to spend time with? She is not likely playing the game to
p**s you off as such, but in the hope you'll give up & p**s off!
It takes forerver to put her bridle on she bobs her head to avoid the bridle and it is very difficult to get the headstall over her head, and when I eventually do I have to FORCE the bit into her mouth, I tried the finger-in-the-mouth thing but it does not work, and I have also tried to hold a lil treat above the bit to encourage her to open her mouth and it worked a few times and now she wont fall for it.
I think bribery/luring can be a good tool, but as you've found, while it can be good for initial motivation, if the rest of the experience is unpleasant for the horse, it's often not enough. It also tends to lead to a horse doing less for more, as they learn the minimum they can do to get the treat. So again, I'd be working out ways of making bridling not such an unpleasant affair firstly, such as not forcing, and instead of bribery, I'd save those treats for positive reinforcement at the time she does 'Right' stuff.
Sometimes she makes me sooo mad that I whip her with it and then I regret it. Even when I whip her SHE DOES NOT CARE!!!.
Sounds like you already know getting mad & punishing her is only going to work against you. We all get frustrated & emotional sometimes, but it's important not to let it get the better of you. One way to help you do this - and get a better thing going with her - is to consider it from her point of view(this may mean you first have to educate yourself on equine behaviour & bodylanguage to have a clue what her perspective may be). For eg. I highly doubt that she doesn't care when you hit her, but in the same manner as a 'hard mouthed' horse is just as sensitive & easily hurt as any other, she has learned that the best course of action is to ignore the discomfort/pain & it will go away. She is just simply doing what works for her to get through an unpleasant experience. So working on changing the way you do things, so she doesn't see it as a bad 'game' anyway, and learning how to effectively use positive & negative reinforcement.
and I never abused her. She thinks she is the boss, and she walks all over me. Do you think it can be my size? I am 13 years old 5'3 and 98 lbs. And she thinks that she is bigger so she could boss me around?
Firstly, quoted the end of your first sentence above to point out that while you haven't 'abused' her in the strict sense of the word, thinking about it from her point of view, it does sound like it may be pretty unpleasant for her - eg. Imagine being forced to put up with or do unpleasant/painful things like the bit, being ridden, etc. You need to find ways of turning what you want of her into pleasant, fun experiences.
She doesn't just think she is the boss, she is
and she is disciplining you for your insolence, but you're not listening. It's nothing to do with your size - even a shetland can get the better of a grown man & even a small child can get the better of a clydie. You want to avoid dominance battles with any horse. IMO you need to forget about 'brawn' and trying to force her to do stuff & learn how to play WITH her.