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post #1 of 23 Old 08-15-2011, 02:51 PM Thread Starter
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Switching trainers

How often do people normally switch trainers? I've been with my trainer for several years now and I've been contemplating a change for about 2 years now. I've been having a hard time because I really like her and enjoy her company but I feel live I've hit a brick wall...

I actually talked to a guy a couple summers ago and then he had a horrific accident (a horse fell on him and broke his neck). He has made an amazing recovery, way more then ever expected, and while he's not the rider he was, I've been watching him this season and he is still guiding his riders into some impressive placings and he is training again.

The group that he has seems like a great bunch of people and are very open to new people joining them. Many of his riders obviously moved on when he was hurt because they needed to continue their training but I've noticed they've been watching him this season too. I think because he's back and they want to see if he can hold up to the preasures.

I just e-mailed to set up my first lesson. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. I think by moving on I will be burning the bridge to my current trainer, she isn't very open to sharing clients so this is a make or break decision.... I haven't really had lesson all summer though because I've been weening myself away....

So nervous... Geuss I'm looking for words of encouragement? I think? Maybe?

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post #2 of 23 Old 08-15-2011, 02:57 PM
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If you feel this new trainer will take you where you want to be and allow you to grow as a rider, then why not? I'm sure your old trainer will be less than happy about it, but she should realize you're not doing it to be mean and she should want you to become the best rider you can. Sometimes a different perspective greatly enhances what we do! Sounds like you're really excited about the lesson, so let us know how it goes! Good luck.
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I'm probably a bad example, but I changed bunch of instructors. I had good relations with all, but as long as I feel that I don't progress sorry, time to move on. Now, NO I do NOT have great expectations for myself and my horse(s), moreover I'm very judgmental towards myself and them, and I do understand progressing is a slow process, BUT the progress should be there (even very slow). So I find it just too expensive to pay for just good relations, you know. So personally I don't see anything wrong/bad with it.

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I'm probably a bad example, but I changed bunch of instructors. I had good relations with all, but as long as I feel that I don't progress sorry, time to move on. Now, NO I do NOT have great expectations for myself and my horse(s), moreover I'm very judgmental towards myself and them, and I do understand progressing is a slow process, BUT the progress should be there (even very slow). So I find it just too expensive to pay for just good relations, you know. So personally I don't see anything wrong/bad with it.
I think this is my line of thinking on this. I feel like the things we've been doing are not working so a change is necessary. I wish I wasn't so... I don't know... sad? About it...

But me and Ri need help!
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Just give it a try. Like my mom always says "any change is for good eventually" (even though I don't always agree with it)

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If you like your trainer as a friend, then you should still be able to be her friend and use someone else as your real trainer. If she has a problem with this then she is not very professional (IMO) and the break off would have happened sooner or later anyway.

I personally like my trainer, and she and I get along very well and her teaching style is in line with my learning style so I have not even considered switching. I have considered moving boarding facilities, but it would have been temporary, till additional turn outs could be built.
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I'm at the same place with my trainer, I feel like I'm not getting as much as I use to out of my lessons and that I've plateaued. But lucky I'm going off to school at the end of the month so me and my horse will be moving to a different barn and I'm really excited. I understand why you're upset though, change is hard, especially were you guys are friends. But I'm sure she'll understand, good luck!
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The new trainer is going to be at the palomino show all weekend but they said I could haul down and get a lesson there or bring him in and do the open classes so I could get training all weekend. I'm debating, I may do that.

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If you've hit a wall with the current trainer, change is a wise choice. Just be prepared to hear some conflicting observations on how to do some things.

You just have to see your distance...you don't have to like it.
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I'm going to the Palomino show saturday to watch him train some folks while they show and while I'm there I'll get my lesson set up. They are really busy preparing for this show...

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