''join up'' by Monty Roberts is wonderful, in my opinion. I rescued an off the track, backyard, starved, passed around, used as a broodmare, thoroughbred and she HATED me when I first got her. Ears back, kicking, biting, the whole nine yards. Can't blame her though, how was she to know I'd be different? It took time, but using the monty roberts technique in the round pen was absolutely awesome for me! I really bonded with that mare and she became the complete love of my life. Make sure you know what all the signs to look for are, like lowering head and chomping/licking lips then turn your back towards her at a 45 degree angle etc.. It worked for me and my horse. It is definitely worth the try!