Starting out this thread with a little more background info may have been helpful. What has been done with the horse up to this point would give others a starting block as to where to help you from. They would have a better understanding of what knowledge you have and your horse has.
And yes, I've watched Clinton and I think if someone came up to him and asked him that question like you did this forum he would have had quite the snarky reply that would have made everything here seem extremely tame. He doesn't baby horses or people.
And while everyone may not be as organized or prepared as another person - you really need to be to start a horse properly and not ruin them. Like others have said - if you are having difficulty to even get your horse to walk under saddle - get real-life help. A forum can't help much in this situation.
Thunderspark you are not a moderator so shouldnt be telling other members how they can and cannot post and your posts come accross as snotty and agressive as well.
Getting on a horse squeezing with your leg and praying the horse works out what to do before you smack it one with a stick is not a good way to break a horse. Infact it is a very good way to break a neck when the horse explodes at being smacked. It is also a very good way to confuse a young horse and end up with dangerous behavior undersaddle. I can tell you now that my lad (who i've just broken in) would have litteraly killed you had you done that, you would have been catapulted head first into the ground at speed or into the nearest solid object (he seems to walls)
I will not teach people how to break a horse over the internet as it is a dangerous occupation in the first place and if you add inexperiance with no proper supervision to the mix and you have a recipe for disaster.
The best advice anyone could ever give the OP is to get proffessional help NOW before she gets hurt