I'm new to the forum but have been lurking for awhile before registering. There seems to be a lot of knowledgable people here so I am seeking guidance or confirmation that I am making the correct decision. I will try to keep this short.
I was given a 8 yr old TWH gelding by my future mother in law (and yes I realize how stupid it was to accept him). I took him partly because she was neglecting him. He was super skinny and his hooves hadn't been trimmed in over a year. He was standing in a stall with no exercise. She lead him around every couple months for exercise! Several people who knew the horse told me he was dead broke and even had "air brakes". That's the horses background. I have been riding for years but have never trained a horse. I am soft handed and have decent balance. I am very bad at riding with contact and am more comfortable with a lazy horse than one who goes, goes, goes.
Dresden(the horse) is wonderful on the ground. I can do just about anything from the ground with him even when he is saddled and bridled.
I attempted to ride him for the first time Saturday and due to a tack failure(latigo broke) I took a nasty fall resulting in bruises and a concussion. Even though it wasn't his fault, I am now skittish about riding him. I tried again Wednesday and my whole body was shaking so bad my feet almost shook out of the stirrups. That is our first problem.
The second problem is he is out of control under saddle. He doesn't buck, rear or truly bolt but he shakes his head, hunches his back like he might buck, takes off at a running walk and refuses to slow down or stop. If I really yank his head he will stop for a few seconds then he is off again. He stays on the rail of the arena and is in a really nice gait but I am just along for the ride. I am not in control of him at all.
I am considering finding a trainer that can work with both of us but I'm not sure whether to put 30 days of training on him first then have the trainer work with us both or what exactly the best option is... I am stumped. He doesn't seem bad. He really just seems clueless. Like he doesn't know what in the world I am asking for.
Ultimately if he is too much horse for me I will sell him to someone that can handle him but I'd like to exhaust other options first as selling him will cause serious tension with the future mother in law and I don't want to give him back to her thus sentencing him to a life of neglect.
I am sorry this was so long. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.