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post #31 of 33 Old 10-20-2013, 04:43 PM
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But it is TRAINING that is turning her into a safe, responsive horse.

bsms, may I suggest that it is the TRAINING as a VERB, not a noun, that makes all the difference.

I had a horse we wouldn't sell because we felt she was too dangerous. We just went day by day, never quite deciding she was hopeless, though she was always fearful.

Then one day we went to a clinic where the clinician said, about the wild colt he was working, "He has to learn to FACE HIS FEARS."

So that's what I concentrated on, facing our fears, not getting rid of them. Yeah, she, and I too, had plenty to fear, but eventually, it became just so "normal". Spook, look, move on... Everything worried her, but nothing was "too much." She never learned to be "good"; but our INTERACTIONS became a strong connection. From what I've read, I believe you know exactly what I mean.
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post #32 of 33 Old 10-20-2013, 06:19 PM
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That's a really good way to put it
Last year Jazzie was very nervous of the clippers - we'd only had her a few months and when I switched them on she all but bounced off the ceiling and even though she settled enough to have her neck clipped she was extremely tense. She hasn't seen them again until yesterday when I decided to trim under her face - a year on she knows and trusts us and stood as quiet as an old timer.
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Parelli, the program which minted the term NH, does not say "bond = control". It's good to simplify things as much as possible, but bad to simplify things more than it's possible to do.

PNH says "Love, Language, Leadership" in = doses. Parelli also says that PNH, at least, is not a training method per se: it's these three L's, which develop a conversation wtih the horse, allowing for the horse to offer an idea or movement, like a contribution to a conversation.

However, NH does say that the horse absolutely requires that you love it: in fact the horse doesn't even care how much you know, till she knows how much you care! This is either true or false, & the experience of Parelli & so many others confirms that it's true.

The gift that horses give us is that they mirror us: they show us ourselves. If we approach them with this understanding, "horse problems" disappear, & we simply learn about ourselves.
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