Originally Posted by Bitless
Im sure she would much appreciate it taken off .....but......
how do you intend to get it back on? and how would you intend on training and working with her if she doesnt let you put it back on?.
i find it difficult to give advise over the net about abused horses, as it varies so differently and really needs to be seen in person.
As far as the touching her goes......it honestly sounds like she knows how to keep people away from her. She is very aware of her pesonal space and how much you are allowed into that.
She needs to know that a touch will not hurt her. To be honest i think your grand pa was somewhat right in the fact you will have to be a bit more forward in your approach to desensitizing. You dont have to be forcefull but a bit more perssistant.
If you have her on the lead , just place you hand on her for a quick second , maby by her shoulder, be aware of her head and control it with your other hand on the lead. Dont pull away with the hand on her shoulder if she tries to bite,.....( it shouldnt be there long enough for her to react like that any way)...... it will only reinforce her biteing you. Praise like mad with your voice and possibly a treat if shes ok with that.
you could even put a hand shaped object on the end of a stick/ arm just to put a little more foom between you and her.
Another possibility is clicker training. Are you aware of this training method?
She no longer has her lead on her, but I CAN put it on. If I hand-feed her and as she reaches her head out over the lower door to eat, I can manage to clip it on her halter. I've done it once, I can do it again.
Problem is, how will I be able to control her head that way? And when I hold her halter, if I try to get anywhere near her, she'll just keep pulling back until she's in the corner, should I honestly back her into a corner??
She will let me stand near her, but she just won't let me touch her, and when I go to she moves back as far is necessary to keep away from me...
However, I'm liking the hand-shaped object suggestion. That might work. If I get her desensitized to it first, then touch her with it, maybe she won't have a problem with it touching her. I'm not sure though. Also, I've been trying to desensitize her to ropes, if I approach her with a rope lately, she's been seeming to have issues with it.
And I am not aware of this method, I don't have much training with horses.
Also, just to put everyone's minds at ease, my parents are finally talking about getting a trainer that will come and train me to train my horse.
It was all a matter of money before, but my birthday's coming up. So they're beginning to tighten the slack.