So I moved Jazz to a new barn, and there's a trainer that comes around to train horses there. Jazz needs a bit of a tune-up so today I asked for her to get on him. She started telling me all about how he needed to be lounged before he was ridden, and then told me I was doing it all wrong...what the heck, people have different ways of running their horses around the roundpen, doesn't mean one way is better than the other! Then she wanted me to get on, and proceeded to tell me everything that I was doing wrong there, and wanted to get on the horse. I'd already explained to her that Jazz had had a very hard but also finicky mouth and it'd taken me years to get right, and said that I didn't want anyone getting in his mouth. She gets on and yanks the crap out of him!!! Lo and behold, he got mad and misbehaved. And the more he misbehaved, the more he yanked. She proceeded to tell me about how he needed a snaffle coated in rubber. What the heck, I've been riding that horse for 7 years in his bit and he has a great mouth, as everyone but her has agreed with. He HATES big fat bits like that, they hurt his mouth.
I didn't want to be rude, so I let her do her thing and paid her. The whole time she was on Jazz he kept looking at me as if to say "mom, make it stop, get her off my back!"
All I wanted was a simple tune-up and a little help with one of his trot-to-canter transitions, and I specifically asked that she stay out of his mouth. He's the kind of horse that you get on, tuck his nose and go. If you pick on him, he picks on you, but if you leave him alone he'll be good as gold and carry his head perfectly. He's a leg and seat horse. So what does she do? Proceeds to tell me I'm doing everything wrong, and yanks on my horse! Who, by the way, behaved much better for me than he did for her. By the time she quit poor Jazz, who usually has a very mild temper, was in a fury and seemed like he was going to take matters into his own "hands" if she didn't get off soon. She had no idea what she was doing!
She just had this egotistical "I know better than you" attitude, and it really annoyed me. I know that she calls herself a trainer and I asked for her help, but I wanted help with just one little thing, not for her to tell me everything I was doing wrong and yank on my horse's mouth. She had no idea what she was doing. I've trained with some of the best trainers in the country in the past, and had six figures put into my and my horses' training. My training is in saddleseat and not in hunt seat, so I needed help with a trot-canter transition, not to be told that I was all wrong and have her get in Jazz's mouth like that.
Maybe I just shouldn't have asked for her help in the first place, but I feel like she was disrespectful and went way beyond what I asked her to do. I told her I was happy with everything Jazz did but that transition, so she should have left it alone. I really don't have much intention to show him, at least not at big shows, so if I'm happy and he's safe, what difference does it make? Besides, he's already done well at the level of show I'd ever want to take him to, and gets a lot of respect from others. He just needed to be tweaked as did I, not totally insulted and yanked on.
From now on he and I will be doing our own thing, and if I need any help I'll be going to my sister, who was a national top ten hunt seat rider.