"Trainer" teaching wrong at hating my horse but I have to keep her HELP :( - Page 2 - The Horse Forum
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post #11 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 01:02 PM
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Thanks evryone! I wish I could.. the problem is she is the owner of the barn I board at and we don't want to leave there because ist is so super close to my house. The 4-h thing is that she has trained me perfectly in EQ and just recently started the roughness on Fudge. My mom dosent want to drop her because she has worked with us through all of the 4-h shows and it would be wrong to give another trainer the glory of me placing well. We have found an amazing dressage trainer who also does hunteres which we will be using come september!
If you aren't happy with her, then leave. If she is potentially ruining your horse, then she doesn't deserve the glory of you placing well.
I'm glad you are switching trainers though, and I wish you the best of luck. :)
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post #12 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 01:07 PM
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Thanks evryone! I wish I could.. the problem is she is the owner of the barn I board at and we don't want to leave there because ist is so super close to my house. The 4-h thing is that she has trained me perfectly in EQ and just recently started the roughness on Fudge. My mom dosent want to drop her because she has worked with us through all of the 4-h shows and it would be wrong to give another trainer the glory of me placing well. We have found an amazing dressage trainer who also does hunteres which we will be using come september!
You deserve that glory, your the one out there doing it not her. Yes she deserves some credit, but not all. If she is doing something to your horse you don't agree with then speak up, your paying her to train your horse to your liking, not hers.
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post #13 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 01:14 PM
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If you can't leave her I would simply tell her you are not comfortable with the technique she wants you to use.
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post #14 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 01:34 PM
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If you can't leave her I would simply tell her you are not comfortable with the technique she wants you to use.
And ask her if there isn't another way to try? She WILL ruin your horse. No doubt, and you will spend a lot of time with the new trainer undoing what she is doing. Training is much easier done right in the first place than to try and correct something they learned wrong.

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post #15 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 01:58 PM Thread Starter
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Does anyone know how to delete a thred?

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post #16 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 02:28 PM
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Why would you want to delete your thread?
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post #17 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 03:01 PM
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I am sorry you are going thru this. It sounds like you know better.. and a horse that is not trained is not "stupid" he is ignorant.. and ignorance means not knowing. No horse was born knowing what we want when we train it.

It sounds like you are young and have been taught to be respectful of your elders and this trainer is someone you do not want to stand up to (or are not allowed to stand up to).

Here is what I suggest. When she tells you do to something that you know is going to be destructive to your horse, just don't do it. Let her yell at YOU (it is noise.. she is not beating you.. and yes, it is hard to hear). Meanwhile, while the trainer is yelling at YOU, the horse is not being abused or hauled about in a manner you know is wrong.

I do not know if you are paying for this trainer and barn, but if you are, you can remember this. The horse is YOUR horse. You and your family bought the horse, you pay the board, you pay the vet, you pay the farrier, you pay for the equipment. The horse is YOUR property and no one has a right to tell you to abuse your property.

Good luck. Again, I am sorry you are in this fix. Just remember two things. First is that yelling is mostly loud and air. You can choose to ignore it. Second is the horse is your property and you can choose to do as told or act ignorant and listen to all the noise from your trainer while not acting on it.

Good luck. Do you have pictures of your horse? Is that him in your Avatar? :)

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post #18 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 03:18 PM Thread Starter
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Elana thanks that means alot! And yes that's my boy(: and .Delete. Because my mom dosent want her to see this if she figures out how (idk a mom thing)

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post #19 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 07:27 PM
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I see that you r between a rock and a hard place...for that I am sorry, will your parents not agree with you that this training is not ok???? What would be wrong with simply telling the trainer this, because you obviously know somthing or you wouldnt be were you are,say I don't agree with this harshness in your training so I would like you to help me train my horse without using such force.. or I simply don't agree with it..or isnt there another way...see what im saying???u have to be your horses voice!!be strong for you and your friend you wont regret it...good luck
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post #20 of 31 Old 08-25-2011, 07:50 PM
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I agree with everyone else she's a bad trainer and does not deserve the credit. He's your baby stand up for him.

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