The stable that I grew up at in Southern California had 2 AMAZING trainers. Of course one was WP and the other H/J. But they were great friends and shared philosophies and sometimes could sub well for each other if needed. One great thing that they both did was ANY time a new student came in with their own horse, or a student bought a new horse, etc, the trainers would hop on and take it for a spin. The reason, they wanted to get to know the horse too so that in lesson they would know what issues were actually the HORSE and which were actually the STUDENT. It also put an end to the whining of "but my horse is doing this, or my horse is doing that, it's my horse's fault."
Anyway, of course I grew up thinking this is what trainers did. Sadly I have YET to find a trainer who will hop onto to Cinny for even 5 minutes! Not the very reputable and pricey dressage trainer I started with, Not the EXTREMELY price clinician who gave her clinics as a series of 45 minute private lessons who rode each horse, but mine...for the first 15 minutes. And non of the other sudo, call themselves a trainer but not sure if they were people that have come after. Even my current trainer who is sort of a "middle of the line" sort of trainer..but she has an excuse, she is recovering from a stress fracture in her ankle and can't ride any horse. But she recently lost a bit of respect when I told her about the saddle fitter telling me my saddle isn't right...she shook her head and laughed and said she new all along. So why the heck did she never say a word? But I digress.
So which is normal? Which should I expect? Should I expect any reputable trainer I work with to hop on Cinny for at least 1 or 2 times around the arena so that they feel the way he goes into the bridle and the way he throws you into your post? And how do I ask a trainer. There have been times that Cinny has been particularly MOUTHY and throwing his head around...which if I follow his head with my hands they move a lot. So I got yelled at to keep my hands quiet but when I did he got worse and he ended up popped in the mouth constantly with the bit because I was "holding my hands quiet".....this trainer even said this was better, but I don't think Cinny thought so. I just wanted to scream YOU GET ON AND SEE WHAT HE'S DOING...it's not just me! But I didn't.
Is it appropriate to ask your trainer to get on your horse. And what is a respectful way to be a bit insistent that they do? I'm not trying to blame all my problems on Cinny, but when a trainer puts me on a lesson horse and then keeps saying "I don't know why you don't ride this quietly on your own horse."
How can a trainer teach me how to fix little problems in my horse when they don't have any experience of what it is like to ride my horse?
Oh and this is a fun example to share too.... My current trainer said I don't put near enough leg on my horse and that is why he won't round or go into the bridle. She is constantly telling me to squeeze squeeze squeeze...which you HAVE to do with her lesson horses to even keep them in a trot. Cinny has extremely sensitive flanks and the result is, Cinny rushes forward or worse, breaks off into a hand gallop with more than a mere tickle of your calf...which then is my fault for not holding him in. Sigh.