I know, it's terribly hard when it seems all you do is talk and show what needs to be done, but the person doesn't hear you. Doesn't want to hear you. That's tough.
I am always amazed at some of the people who bring their horses to us and then have no interest at what had been done or what the plan is for the future. They just take the horse and leave thinking everything's hunky-dory. Unfortunately for them it's them who needed the fixing! Lol
Exactly. But because they won't spend some money (or even just time) learning how to fix themselves they shell out major bucks to keep sending their horses to get fixed and it only causes more problems and stress in the long run.
It is heart wrenching, like many things in the horse world. Remember though that the horse ultimately belongs to someone else. I see this all the time with horses that come and leave our barn. I have been working with a trainer for several years and the horses that I have owned in that time. He really emphasizes softer hands and more seat and leg. I have seen people take their horses to other barns where they bang on the horse mouth quite often as a part of training. Then you see the same horse a few years later only if they can mentally make the cut. You may or may not see these horses in the show ring.
It definitely is a tough thing. I can't stand working so hard, putting in so much time, the sweat, blood tears, just to watch my hard work unravel. I've seen it happen with so many horses I've trained. I'm actually scared of what's going to happen to my current horse, my little 3 year old QH. He's still so young, but he tries so hard, and he needs light hands and a steady leg, with anything more hard he'll either fight until he drops or shut down. I'm afraid of what he's going to turn into when he's no longer under my care.
The other thing I hate is trying to give helpful advice just to have it ignored. I have a woman who I speak to frequently asking me for advice on training her Arabian for barrel racing. Well, his very first time EVER on the barrels she loped him around and complained how he was bulging out in the turns. I said it's because he doesn't know the pattern, just take it slow and he'll figure it out and know what you're asking of him. Then she said to me "Nah, I think I'll just wear spurs so he'll respond to my leg when I try and push him into the barrel more. I mean, we DO have a show this weekend." I couldn't believe it. I was shocked. I said he can do it without the spurs just take your time. But she refuses, she's taking him to a barrel show on Sunday and is going to gallop him hell bent around these cans when he's only ever loped around a pattern ONCE. Not to mention she's MUCH to big for this horse...(she's well over 200lbs and the Arabian she rides is only 15hh and obese himself). It makes me wonder why people ask for help when they don't want to hear what you have to say.
Sorry that was so long, I'm just disgusted with the situation right now.