Dear RidingBareback, this is going to be a very long reply, so get ready.
Firstoff, I noticed you had posted a comment saying "how do show the HORSE you are the boss?" And I am so glad you asked! Many people overlook it, and actually, with Lily after lessons she's been taking like 20 minutes or so to give me the kind of advice you're asking, instead for Lefty. And we were just working on building a relationship where you two are both companions but he understands you are of higher rank and he must respect that. All horses are different. With Continent (a horse I frequently ride and care for), if you just scold him and say "NO!" he feels very guilty and will usually quit it. But you must be careful not to be too hard on him or it will ruin his day. He's very sensitive. But with Prestige, its more tricky. He's a smart little pony, but not as smart as you, IF YOU KNOW WHAT/WHY he's doing it. For example, the other week, there were a bunch of white barrels at the end of the ring he kept spooking at, so I tried to calm him down. But Lily (my trainer) knew him better and knew he was faking it and trying to get away with it, so now I knew I must push him past it. So with a smart, tricky horse like that, if he, let's say, if he nips at you once you firmly say "NO." Try to make your voice deeper and more manly, as this it is proven horses find this scarier and more dominant. The next time he bites at you, whack him, HARD. Or, you take a bit of loose skin on his neck, and pinch it. It wont hurt him, horses have 16 layers of skin. But he'll get the message. So as you can see it really depends on the horse. You have to know exactly WHAT and WHY he spooks at something. **TIP. If you are trying to put on a bridle and the horse lifts his head real high, OR if you're trying to get on a bit and he closes his mouth, put your fingers and press his nostrils. He will have to open his mouth for air.
I HOPE THIS HELPED!!!
I WILL ANSWER THE REST OF YOUR QUESTIONS IN ANOTHER POST!! GTG!!
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