I must be dense. I just don't get it. I think people ask for opinions when what they really want is validation. If you ask for opinions, that is what you will get and they are not all going to agree with you. You learn from any little nugget of information that enlightens you and you dismiss those that do not agree with you.
People have called me cruel and mean. They have said I had mindless Zombies because I like obedient horses and know how to make them willing and obedient and HAPPY. I did not take my marbles and run and play with only people that agree with me. I have stuck around and have not taken anything anyone said personally or gotten offended. It is just a difference of opinion. I have mine and they have theirs. I may explain why I have mine (which I thought I did here) but I am perfectly happy that they have theirs.
If a person is starting a thread JUST to get validation and opinions from people that agree, then give it a different name -- like say -- 'Anyone else here like training with treats?' You know what? I would not have posted --- may not have even read it depending on if I had the time or not.
And I still think that if you need treats to get a horse to back up willingly, you just need to work on your horsemanship and training skills. I am not trying to be offensive or snotty. Just stating the facts AS I SEE THEM. If you use treats to get a horse to bow or lay down or pick something up and give it to you, join the crowd that uses treats to teach tricks. But, don't ask for opinions and then have a fit when people give theirs. Any mature person should know that if there are 10 people in a room, there are probably going to be 12 different opinions about a subject. So asking for opinions may not be the best way to get validation.
[By the way, I have given some people the the same message that I though it was not a horse problem but strictly a lack of training skill problem and they thanked me for the 'wake-up call' and said they were going to work on advancing their horsemanship skills in that area.]
Last edited by Cherie; 01-29-2013 at 07:50 AM.