I'm not jumping on you, I just have a differ in opinion. I personally think that if you have to be bitter about cleaning stalls and doing barn chores to justify your "Dictatorship" then you need to wake up and smell the alfalfa. There are so many people that would kill to be in your position.
Bitter?? I have full board, I have money. I don't have to touch a fork again if I choose. I choose to clean stalls. I will not let anyone clean my stall, select my horses hay , grain him or water him. I even pick the pasture hay, feed it myself, clean the water trough, and again I have full board and can afford anything in life.
I choose to clean, to spend the hours with him.
Each and every day I spend at least 1 full hour with him..Now that spring has sprung I hand graze him an hour each evening just to spend time with him. I too love my time with a horse. Saturdays and sundays I spend about 5 hours per day and love every minute of it.
I am retiring next summer and intend to spend every day with him. Keeps me out of trouble.
But back to the dictatorship. I am the boss, the supreme being. He knows it, listens to everything I say, comes even before he is called. Like a faithfull puppy he follows at my heals.
Through a half century of working horses, having a working companion I have worked out what works best. What makes the best bond and that is why I do things my way, pick the candidates I choose because is flat out works.
Being in boarding stables give you a large cross section of people, people you watch every day dealling with thier horses and there are very very few that even begin to get a passing grade, most fail miserably.
I have never failed to have the best horse in any barn, never rode with one that had a better trained animal and that is 50 plus years of riding, hanging around boarding barns.
My wife as mentioned a few times to buy our own place but I want the interaction of other people, other horses. I don't want to own my own place in the country.
I also have to say that over the last 30 years or so nearly everyone that started in horses is now out of them?? Why??
I ride up to 8 times a week?? I know there is only 7 days but I ride alot, love it?? Again why is this???
I will pick any fight with any horse and win. The horses know that and because of that they respect me, what I can do and I don't make shy horses.
I also work equally well with abused, frightened horses?? Again Why??
Again I don't like spoiled barn yard pets, ones that have no respect. The best way to teach respect is have the horse try, have him kick you, have him bite you and respond accordingly. I never carry a whip or beat a horse but I gain respect.
As one famous trainer put it. A family pet, one that has been handled to much is too resistive.
I pick the unbroken stud colts for a reason. They come along the quickest, haven't been spoiled by all the handling and their minds are ready for learning as well as their bodies.
Respect is something they need to test, need to fail and re establish in their own minds that I am invincible.
My guy got to kick me twice in as many days and has never kicked again. And remembet I don't pick a weapon and hit him. It is me and him only. No stud chain either.