It is not surprising that people confused the girl's fall for the horse's fall. Your post is very confusing. You use "her" and "she" over and over in various sentences when it is extrememly unclear whether that means the mare or the girl. When you use "she" in a sentence, it always refers back to the most resently mentioned subject of the sentence.
The mare is young. She is only 9. (means the mare is only 9)
As for advice, if you could be more specific . You mean how to deal with the fearful friend or how to ride the mare, or?
ill change my 1st post..
well my friend, Amy is scared of Zoe 14.3 hand appy/tb cross shes 9 years old..
so amys riding my show horse. so i rode Zoe today (i'll get video tomorrow)
i rode Zoe in a D-ring english bridle, running martingale, tekna A4 jumping saddle (it's Amy's friends), and boots, Zoe was acting up as in (throwing her head, sidestepping, crowhopping at a canter) Amy used her as a barrel horse from 5-6 and Zoe wasn't fast enough. so from 6 1/2 till now Zoe's been a jumper and has down basic dressage well Amy took a bad fall and shes been scared of Zoe. so for the past 8 and a half months Zoe got away with EVERYTHING, bucking, rearing, taking off etc
i'll get videos tomorrow.. but any advice? I'm not scared of zoe I'm used to powerful disrespectful horses but Amy doesn't want anything rough (training)..welli believe in light reins heavy leg with Zoe the slight touch of ur leg no matter from a halt, walk, trot, or canter she takes off at a full out run
edit: i need advice on trying to fix this mare. i mean i did all my mare's training but Zoe is getting alittle bit to much to handle. I'm not scared of her But i'm gonna have a trainer helping me..but i need advice for now