:) Hi JRlover, This is my view from what youv'e given me. Firstly I mean all of my advice in love and mean not to put you down or make you feel bad! I think that perhaps you may be riding on your hands hence that being your point of balance, If you were to loosen your reins...not leave them flapping but hold your reins to make a straight line from mouth to hand so that you just feel his mouth...NO TIGHTER! This will be so that you can turn when needed. Your reasurance should come from your hand to pat and your mouth for kind and soft words. Your legs are for GO! I suggest legs on legs on legs on legs on! Everywhere you go legs on. Relax your legs to his sides and hug with your legs so that you feel him there all of the time. I think you should rest from any other schooling until you reaffirm going forward. Imagine this.......you have a large balloon between your legs and the front of the balloon is connected to a string held in your hands. Ok as you are just standing nothing happens but as you squeeze with your legs the air is pushed forward and you feel the string move so you move your hand forward so as not to loose the string. Now if you transfer this to riding squeezing causes your horse to move forward and the reins move because his head moves in the walk and so do your hands BUT if you don't allow your hands to move because you need them to balance on effectively you hurt your horses mouth and he thinks bugger you I'm going home and failing that I am going to unload you! I think that perhaps your boy won't go forward or where you want because it hurts. NOW don't waste time in feeling bad about this.....we all make mistakes! We don't get better by just knowing this we get better by practicing lots and lots in the case of horses. This is just my opinion and people make the mistake of using something harsher eg the whip or harder bit when really you need to go back to basics and look at your point of balance which should be your body core...stomach, hips/bottom, legs and feet in stirrups. Your seat bones should be balanced on the saddle and independent. Your hands are for steering kindly they are not for go. Ok that's enough lecturing!
Get out and ride that horse baby!