One option that will give you control over where the horse goes is to buy her (maybe the owner will make you a heck of a deal) and then move her on to a rider with enough ability and confidence to enjoy her. Other than that, you do your job and hope for the best for the horse.
Agree or maybe you could try to sell her for the owners out of your barn. Then they would never have to deal with her again.
I've been thinking about both of these options. I am sitting down with the owner at some point next week and I think I will bring both of them up, depending on what she wants. If she wants a quick sell and good riddance, she will probably have to lower her price and I might buy her. If she wants to wait for the right buyer, even better and we can sell her out of the barn. I think the biggest thing I'm concerned about here is making a rookie mistake- I have my own horses and buying/selling is no problem, but the this would be the first time I am buying a horse simply to have control over where it goes... that being said she is a nice age, knows tons and would do so great for the right person, so it's not like I'd be buying a green horse with a bad conformation...
It sounds like the owner may be making a good decision. I didn't know how to ride when I bought my first horse. She was advertised as "perfect for a beginner". I had done a little riding 30 years earlier, so how hard could it be? Just buy a horse that was perfect for a beginner, and learn...
The professional trainer I hired (who did wonders with Mia) said Mia will never be an easy horse. She said Mia is one of those horses who view every ride as an adventure. The plus side is that she puts a lot of effort into each ride. The minus is that she expects her rider to put a lot of effort into each ride...
Yes I think it is the best decision for the owner. And for the horse, provided she goes to someone who is a good match for her. Hopefully I can have some input there, I would hate for this to end up a horror story when she gets sold.
Mia sounds like a little adventure :) I am grinning because I've ridden a few horses that sound exactly like her- "I will work so hard for you- but you will work hard too!", is almost this mare's motto. It sounds like you got some professional help and put in a lot of effort, and it is encouraging to see you have stuck it out. I wish more people did this :)
Anyway, thank you all so much for your advice and sharing tips and knowledge. I found there are a lot of people on this sub-forum that are extremely knowledgeable, good horse people and I will continue to siphon knowledge from you over the internet hehe. I don't meet with the owner for a few days so I will update on what's happening to this mare and then we can hopefully move on to more cheerful topics!