Please bear with me while I try to explain.....
I have a gorgeous old Mare, she is totaaly bomb proof, wonderful with the children, easy to tack up etc she basically just stands there and lets you do anything to her. Anyway, she is getting on a bit and I wanted to seperate her from the big herd she runs with so I can see her easily everyday to feed/rug her and make sure she is fine.
So - I realised I needed company for her, after asking around I finally found a little pony, the guy who owned her couldnt do anything with her as she was too small, so she was just left to run wild and has had almost no training. He made a vauge and poor attempt at breaking her in 6 months ago and now I am left to pick up the pieces.
She is 4 years old, very sweet but terribly nervous. Iv had her for about a month. She gets on great with my old mare so that's brilliant, and she will come over to be fed, but she HATES being touched. I can persevere with her and she will tolerate me touching her neck but if I go down past her withers she freaks out and runs away, her whole back spasms and twitches, she is terrified of being touched anywhere but her neck. Its taken a lot of work to get her to the point where she will let me gently touch her when she is eating, but she is still very shy and she still doesnt like it.
Anyway, after a huge drama tonight and like a scene from the wild west I finally managed to trick her and get a rope around her neck and a halter on. Im going to leave her haltered for the time being so that I can catch her a more easily. She is not one bit happy about it.
I don't know what to do with her, I don't know how to start desensatizing her to touch, I can't even contemplate her ever being ridden - I basically just want her tame enough so I can check her over, fuss her and rug her without any issues. How on earth can I help her get over her fear?
Im so out of my depth, I know NOTHING about horse training and I need to start from scratch with a semi wild scared horse
Any ideas? Im at my wits end
P.s also she has no respect for me, she doesnt see me as the leader, she answers to nobody but my old mare, she gives me evil ears sometimes if I approach her when she is having her bucket of feed and I don't know how to change that either