Bob, telling a green rider to ditch instruction completely is HORRIBLE advice. What she needs is an instructor who will listen to what she wants to accomplish, and work out a program around that.
Telling her to go it alone when she clearly acknowledges she wants help in how to ride properly is completely irresponsible. Are you trying to get her hurt?
Totally disagree, I've told her how to ride and enjoy the horse, and not get hurt.
If you want to get hurt, just ride a horse with a bit of an attitude in an english saddle. Then ride that same horse a with good western saddle, huge difference both in confidence building and security of seat.
She is not green, she has been riding for 6 plus years, and is confused about what's proper and what is not. If she rides so it's comfortable for her, it will also be comfortable for the horse, then the horse will also behave much better.
I suggested a bit for her to use that will be much, much more comfortable for the horse. That too will cause the horse to behave many times better.
Many, many, times, too much education is just plain confusing.