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    01-31-2012, 11:05 AM
  #1
Yearling
What can i do about my sister in laws jealous filly?

My 15 year old sister in law got a mare about 17 months ago, and we didn't know she was bred. Well we got the surprise of a fiesty filly. Well I taught my s-i-l everything she need to know to care for her mare. But now since the filly is here and is now 1, my s-i-l can't do any thing with her mother. The filly has attacked my s-i-l 3 times. She's never done anything to me, but kick and i've broken her of that. But what can I do to help my s-i-l with her jealous filly?
     
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    01-31-2012, 11:10 AM
  #2
Started
Get a trainer and become the leader asap before this little attacking filly becomes big attacking mare!!
     
    01-31-2012, 04:07 PM
  #3
Yearling
I don't think her dad is going to pay for a trainer for her. She knows i'm leader, but its like she doesn't accept my sister in law as leader. I'll see what I can do for her.
Thank you!
     
    01-31-2012, 04:55 PM
  #4
Weanling
If a trainer is not an option but this filly accepts you as a leader and you're going to be the one helping your sister in law... I would suggest a lead rope with leather ends or lunge whip for your sister in law to use when she's around the filly. Is she just working with the mare and that's when the filly gets aggressive? If so have her work with the filly on the ground. Halter breaking and leading and what not and teaching the filly to respect your sister in laws space.
Horses pin their ears at each and the horse is saying "move" to the other horse. So when this filly pins her ears and attacks your sister in law she's saying "move". And if you're sister in law moves (away) the filly has become dominant. A horse that pushes in to my space is swiftly corrected. A firm smack on the chest with the leather ended lead rope that sends the horse back is saying, "No, I'm not moving, you're moving. I'm the leader, you don't move me."
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    01-31-2012, 05:01 PM
  #5
Showing
A friend go a big winter glove that welders wear and when a young stud come came at him witth teeth bared he used the glove to slap him on the jaw. Hard. The colt regrouped and came at him again. After the second hard cslap the colt decided he'd had enough. The fellow didn't wear the glove, but the leather sure let out a big pop when it slapped the colt. I had a two yr filly on a halter and long lead when she suddenly decided to go over top of me. I had no qualms about delivering a hard smack with the rope to her neck to turn her away. She tried it a second time and again felt the slap of the rope. She too underwent a change of attitude.
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    01-31-2012, 05:01 PM
  #6
Trained
Sell/give away the filly to someone that can handle her. Your sister in law obviously can't and she's going to get seriously hurt.
     
    02-01-2012, 11:59 AM
  #7
Yearling
Mystykat, my sister in law likes to do things when i'm not home, which is when each of the incedents have happened. I told her if she kept going after her when I wasn't there to correct it she was going to get seriously hurt, and she did. I love her dearly but she doesn't listen, she does everything half way. I told her if the filly kept up the aggressiveness towards her she was going to have to go, because she could end up very dangerous. Its hard to work with them all when I go to work, and she has school. I'll try my best, I just got some new equipment to help me along with my other horses. Thank You!
Saddlebag, i'll have to try that, I have a yearling colt who loves to bite too. Thank you!
CLaPorte432, selling or giving her away probably isn't an option, unless her dad or grandparents see it fit to do so. And I know my sister in law can't handle her, but she's out of her mare, so I can't do anything with out her family interfering. Thank You!

Thank you all for your helpful advice! I will be working with her!
     
    02-01-2012, 12:18 PM
  #8
Green Broke
As she is a minor, I would suggest speaking with the family about your concerns for her safety. Are they (family) "horsey" people?
     
    02-01-2012, 12:40 PM
  #9
Trained
I would do everything in my power to relocate the filly. She is going to become a terror as she gets older and will certainly do further harm to your little SIL. Your husband needs to talk with the family, NOT YOU, and convince them to get rid of her. Your SIL is a child. She has no business being around a dangerous young horse without parental supervision. Obviously she does not have the training to handle a young horse, the common sense to stay away and listen to advise, and her parents need to be reminded of the potential dangers.
Great she got to experience the wonders of foaling, now it is time to have her either professionally trained or sent away to "someone who will love her and give her the training she deserves." ASAP

And welcome to the forum!
     
    02-01-2012, 12:54 PM
  #10
Green Broke
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Originally Posted by FlyGap    
I would do everything in my power to relocate the filly. She is going to become a terror as she gets older and will certainly do further harm to your little SIL. Your husband needs to talk with the family, NOT YOU, and convince them to get rid of her. Your SIL is a child. She has no business being around a dangerous young horse without parental supervision. Obviously she does not have the training to handle a young horse, the common sense to stay away and listen to advise, and her parents need to be reminded of the potential dangers.
Great she got to experience the wonders of foaling, now it is time to have her either professionally trained or sent away to "someone who will love her and give her the training she deserves." ASAP

And welcome to the forum!
Meh, I disagree -- yes, it is the OP's husband's family, but she is the one who has witnessed specific events that have caused her to conclude the SIL is in danger. This is not one of those "It's his family, his to deal with" subjects, imo. It's not about who's family is who's - it's about who has the knowledge and experience and has witnessed specific situations that are raising big red flags.
     

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